how do they move on so fast

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Registered: 06-20-2004
how do they move on so fast
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 12:45pm
So i decided finally last night after gaining the courage from the board to finally just get all my stuff from my ex's house and cut off communication for a while so we could save the friendship. ok here is a little background before my ex broke up with me he started talking to and hanging out with this girl and i got a weird vibe from her, ok not just a weird vibe, she liked him and i knew it and ive had this vibe before in our 2 and a half year relationship and was right, so i asked him not to hang out with her a lot because of it and he disrespected me twice and went behind my back and did it, i caught him both times, this lead to the break up i feel. so anyway i haul myself to his place to pick up my few things, my money he owes me, and my cat. i know on his bedroom door and when i opened the door the girl was in his arms. dressed all cute and all over him. he says they didnt kiss or do anything but it broke my heart to see another girl in his arms, its only been a week. he called later that night and after this week of well ill think about getting back together and working things out he decided last night we wont get together any time in the near future and maybe in a few years if we meet up and have the spark still there(its there for me and he says it is for him, but thats hard to understand) we can try things again. i just need some help dealing with this and getting over him completely, i have a total void in my heart, like it was ripped out and not only handed to me but rubbed in my face in the process.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:58pm
im sorry about wut happened, im sorry u had to see it. im almost in the same situation as you only i didnt see it, i saw the letter. i felt like i was going to die when i saw the letter saying i love you baby addressed to him. ive never felt pain until that moment, i couldnt breathe i felt like i was trappend in a place where i couldnt move this was just last week and up until now i can still see the letter in my head. i dont know when i will get over him, i dont know how i can live with the thought of him and the girl together holding ieach other. and up to now i still cannot figure out which one is more painful, is it the breakup or ythe thought that hes now with someone new. reading these posts have given some sort of strength to go on and face it. its going to be another week, im barely surviving tonite and tomorrow i have to face the same thing. but i guess for people like us theres nothing that we can do even if our hearts resist to accept that its over we really have to because theyre not coming back, they are moving on and thats wut hurts. they couldnt wait until both are ok, but hry, thats wut gives us strength. thats why us women are stronger than men, because we always bounce back, we may fall flat on our face, but because were strong we always make it through...hang in there and we should all give each other strength. try to smile it sometimes helps =)
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 11:28pm
Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you had to see that and that you're going through all this. I really think you're better off without him though, although I doubt that's what you want to hear right now. I have trouble beliving that he only snuck out twice to be with this girl when you were together...it just seems odd that you would catch him the only two times he did it...and it's obvious he's with her now or about to be....I think they've been sneaking around for some time...at least that's what it sounds like. I doubt in 2 yrs you would even want to get back with him! Just try and stay busy and do things for you that normally would make you happy...get your hair done, go shopping....whatever usually gets you going...it won't be the same but it may help a little. Good luck and post when you feel the need!













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Registered: 01-28-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:15pm
guys try to replace,find someone else..doesn`t mean they are better of than we are.My ex would think I am a you know what if i am dating someone but i don`t care