My long distance fiance wants to break u
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My long distance fiance wants to break u
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:29am |
This guy proposed to me this year and left me to a forigen country for his job. I am still in school and grauduating this year. Recently, He just emailed me and told me that he wants to break up and wants the ring back. I know if I tried harder to keep the relationship and move to live with him after graudation might keep him with me. But, since he asked me for the ring back, i think i will just break up with him and give him back the ring. Cuz I feel he has no respect for me and he doesn't care if he hurts me either. what a Jerk! Wounldn't you all agree with me? I feel like such a waste of time being with this guy. hate him.
What do u think i should do? Is there any way to end a realtionship nicely and still be frends? Or should I just be mean to him? he asks me for the ring back, so cheap.
What do u think i should do? Is there any way to end a realtionship nicely and still be frends? Or should I just be mean to him? he asks me for the ring back, so cheap.

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I think it's a bit wierd to propose to someone and then move to a foreign country. Did he know about the job move before you got engaged? I can't imagine a company that would make moving overseas a requirement for continued employment, so I must assume that he chose to move there of his own free will. That doesn't sound like he was as committed to you as you thought.
Your post is a bit contradictory in some parts. You say he's a jerk, cheap, has no respect for you, and you hate him. Then you want to know if there's a way to still be friends. Do you hate him or want him as a friend? As for finding a way to end the relationship "nicely," there is no such thing. There's no way to nicely tell someone you don't want to be with them anymore. I don't really see the point in being mean to him about it, though, except to get revenge, although revenge almost never leaves you feeling good about it in the end.
You sound way too young to be contemplating spending the rest of your life with someone. Maybe that's why he decided to end the engagement. Wait a few more years. Get your own life going before you start husband-hunting. I understand being hurt, but you sound like you're on the road to bitter and hateful, and that certainly won't help you any. Send back the ring, say your goodbyes, and move on with your life.
I know that the courts don't always see it the same way, but I think life would be much better and the world a kinder, gentler place if people would live by etiquette, which is basically good manners and consideration for the other person.
To the OP: I'm sorry for your loss, but his actions show what kind of person he is, and while I know it's not easy to hear, you're better off without him!
Sheri
O, he left for his job to a foriegn country before he met me, that's why he proposed to me so early to keep me around. I am not that young either, I am turning 25 this year.
There's no written proof that the ring he gave me was for engagement, he proposed to me and nobody witnessed it. I am hurt and bitter about it, becuz he didn't keep his words and he is disrespectful and he is iresponsible. So, if he goes to court and sue me for not returning the ring, can he still win? what if I lost the ring?
Sheri
As for the ring, usually whomever breaks the engagement gives it back. However, there are newer laws out there that say that the ring is a gift conditional on marriage, so it is a conditional gift and should be returned no matter what. You should check on the laws in your particular state.
There are a few books I would recommend...One is called There Goes the Bride written by a woman who broke an engagment. She also has a companion website where Almost Brides and Grooms talk a lot. I have found that to be quite helpful. Also a lot of my friends recommended A Journey From Abandonment to Healing.
I am around your age - I am 24. I agree with you that you are not too young to get married, but seriously, we are both young and have the rest of our lives ahead of us. We will find true love again. And this is a big learning experience.
Best of luck.
I am not upset at all anymore. I was angry with him for the first 2 days, but I am fine now. I think it's because we are so far away from each other, so out of sight and out of mind.
24 yrs is not young anymore, i am actually turning 25 soon. I don't know when and where will I meet that right person, I just hope to find a good one in my life.
I am not sure if I am obligated to return the ring. There was no proof and witness that he proposed to me. Anyways, As for the law from my state, where can I check on them? Is there a website or government office i can go find out?
I think you could try under family law or marital property on a state website. You could try doing a google search for it with your state in the topic.
Just because no one was a witness doesn't mean you don't have to give it back. Most proposals do happen in private. I'd check out the law.
I ended up giving mine back. I just didn't want it or the reminder.
Good luck!
My guy emailed me and he still wants to be with me. He said I have not been contacting you is because I have been doing deep thinking, and I realized I can't live without you.
I still don't know why was he giving me the radio silence and didn't contact me for a while? He broke up with me out of the blue. I think he probably was cheating on me during these times. What should i do?
Besides, do you really want a ring that is not symbolic of anything? Or is the money really worth it?
Get rid of it.. start over.. you will be stronger for it.
Good luck!
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