This is too hard

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Registered: 02-03-2004
This is too hard
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 12:33pm
A couple of months ago my boyfriend of 2.5 years and I were breaking up. I moved out and got my own place and was feeling really good about the decision I made. He NEVER wanted to have sex or do anything enjoyable at all. I had compromised so much of the parts of myself that I loved most, like my sensuality and being social and outgoing. Well, soon after we broke up he was almost killed in a car accident. I stayed by his side in the hospital every day until he got better. I started living with him again and he began to really see what was wrong with our relationship before the accident (he didn't remember we were even having problems until I told him and was devestated about it). Well, it's been two months after the accident and I feel like nothing has changed. The only difference is that now he acknoledges that there is a problem and he needs to seek therapy. I just feel like I've compromised so much of who I am but it is hard because I love him more than anything and he is such a wonderful person. I feel like my life is passing me by. Sometimes it is just too hard to be close to him and constantly be rejected. I feel so lonely and sad right now. We are talking about breaking up but I feel that it is just too hard. Any advice out there? Sorry if this doesn't make sense.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:10pm
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:23pm
Try to get him into therapy, or at least to see the family doctor. He sounds like he has clinical depression. If he won't go, or that's not it, well, it's your decision, but you can't sign up for a lifetime of unhappiness. Good luck.