The ex is runing my reputation

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Registered: 03-31-2003
The ex is runing my reputation
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:50pm
I use to date a guy whose well known in certain circles. Things didn't work out between us and we've moved on. BUT, here's the problem

I met a new guy. I didn't know that he knew the ex through business circles until sometime later.

When the ex found out about me and the new guy, he told the new guy negative things about me. SAYING I'M A HO.

Last week I was speaking with someone and they said the ex was saying negative things about me which is bad for my character.

This is hurtful for me. Why is this guy bashing my character. If my name come up in a conversation, why does he have to inform the person that he thinks I'm a ho.

Since we stopped seeing each other, I have not attacked his character.

What is he gaining by bashing and embarrassing me?

I'm tempted to call him and ask why? I can't stop he from saying negative things? I just want to understand why after all this time he still wants to hurt me.

I'm not a ho. I'm a single divorced woman hoping to meet Mr. Right. I do date hoping to meet him, does being on the dating scene make you a ho?



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Registered: 01-07-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 3:09pm
You are not a 'ho' and your personal life is yours, not something for him to go around bashing. It is of no one's concern who or how often you date.

But that's the old double standard - if a woman dates a lot of men, she's automatically a ho. I wouldn't worry about it. Confronting him isn't going to do anything. He's obviously a completely ignorant child.

The people who know you and who you count as your friends know the real you and know that you are no "ho".

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:12pm
the guy is a jerk..he is probably jealous that you moved on,esp if you did the breaking up,HOWEVER he has NO right calling you names..he is just jealous...don`t call him,he wants to hurt you,don`t let him...have fun dating and guys who rag on girls by calling them a ho are usually jerks who can`t get a girl,I know this because I have known aot of guys like that
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:27pm
(((Hugs)))
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:34am
yes..a guy I used to be friends with did the same crap,calling an ex a ho because she sleeps with guys early on..oh what does that make him then? and he treats women like crap and when they break up he is out looking in ads but if she finds someone he gets all mad.and another stupid guy I know treated my friend like garbage but gets mad when she dates..guys are stupid jerks,don`t let them bother you