bf and i broke up, now hes GAY!
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| Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:43pm |
every guy i have ever dated, i have tried to keep a line of communication open after the breakup, most have been sucessful. dont like to have hard feelings ligering. called him up and left a message on his voice mail asking if he could call me back (im getting ready to move, btw, rather unexpectedly) i wanted to talk to him once more before i left town. no return call. talked to a friend to see if he could talk to my ex and figure out what was up. he gladly obliged. all my ex would say in reguards to calling me back is "it would complicate things". my friend later got it out of him that hes feeling conflicted about his sexual preference. i always like the guy because he was eccentric and a bit "fruity" but i never imagined he would be thinking of turning gay. this has crushed me. i still have extreme feelings for him and its hard to cope with them understanding the odds of him coming back to me are slim. anyone else been through something like this?

one thing you need to keep in mind , you didnt "make him gay". every single gay male friend of mine has at some point, had a girlfriend, even slept with their girlfriends, and later realized "hey, this isnt really what i like". they all enjoyed it at the time, but only later, often years later, di dthey recognize that the reason their relatoinships never seemed to work out was that what they really needed to complete them was something very different--namely, other men. im sure that your bf DID care about you and enjoy being with you, but something wasnt clicking for him, and he deserves to find out what that something is.
its going to be hard for you to put your feelings for him away, but thats a challenge of every break up and i know you'll get through it. as far as being friends w/ him goes, well, maybe you cant do that just yet. the best thing you can do now is know that you didnt do anything wrong and try your bes tto move on with your life. i know its easier said than done, but post here, and let your friends be there for you and remember there are millions of straight guys out there waiting for you :)