Hate this feeling

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Hate this feeling
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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 8:47am
I broke up with my live in boyfriend of 10 yrs about two weeks ago. I am 27 he is 40. I said to myself take it day by day but now it is becoming really difficult. I am so depressed, I feel like I can't breathe anymore. My heart is in a thousand pieces and I have gave all my love to this guy and have no more to give to anybody else. I am crying everyday and I don't want to see anyone. It is getting to be a real heavy feeling and I don't want it no more. How is one supposed to wait for the feeling to subside. When does it end? I can't find no joy in anything no more. Everybody says it will heal but it is not. It is getting worse.
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 3:26pm
sweetie! that is so hard, and im so so sorry. 10 yrs is almost half my life, i cant imagine how heavy you must be feeling his loss.

i think the greatest lesson i learned and am still learning is that during a breka up you have to be very patient with YOURSELF. 2 weeks?honey thats not enough time to be okay. you're going to be upset and its natural and its normal and it WILL get better with time. its going to be a really hard climb but it will happen i promise you. you have to cut yousrlf some slack and allow youself to grieve.

keep posting here and take the advice of the ladies on this board, there's a good mix of experiences and voices here, stay optimistic and good luck :D

if i wasnt in such a rush i'd post a bit more, but i just want to give you some encouragement and i'll post more later

take care

-ace

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 9:37pm
i know how you feel im going through the same thing only hes happy with someone else now and i really resent that, but i guess time is our friend rite now . hang in there and people here are very supportive, just keep on posting until you feel better
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 6:58am
I hate him for what he has done to me. The thing that kills me is that the girl he went with is really unintelligent, raspy voice and no education. I am good looking, have a body and intelligent. I don't understand it.

He contacted me and tells me whenever I need money I will have it. That I am a wonderful person and deserves the best. Then he tells me that he knows I am the better woman but he just had to move on. So, why move on with a woman with no class? Like what he said is supposed to make me feel better. I really think men are all alike. I will NEVER EVER give my heart to a guy like the one I did. As a matter of fact I don't think I will plan to be with a man.


I feel so sick to my stomach. I had lost 15lbs since our breakup. I can't eat, sleep or even go out without feeling like crap.

Life sucks at this point for me.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 7:25pm
Welcome to the board!! I'm so sorry to hear about your break-up. You two were together for a long time so it's going to take a long time to get over it, I know it feels like you can't go on but you will in time...your friends are right. Just try and keep yourself busy in the meantime so you don't sit and dwell on things.....and remember why you broke up with him in the first place. Good luck and keep us posted. We're here if you need someone to talk to!













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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 10:21pm
Hi Suns

Just try to hang in there. I sorta know what it feels like. Im kinda going through my own kind of hell right now. All I want to do is curl up and cry......but I wont. And neither should you. Go out there and do something fun, even if you dont feel like it. It will get easier. I have managed to keep myself distracted for the most part. You can do it too....trust me. If you want to talk you can always email me. I would actually appreciate having a female friend that I can talk to. Just hang in there ok?

Hope

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 3:31pm
I am doing much better today. I want to share a poem that I came across to other people, who are suffering a heartbreak. I hope it will leave you with a positive note like I did.

Here it goes:


Heartbroken...A Time To Heal


Love once long ago, took my will to live and broke my wings.

Time heals slowly. Life is never the same again

Love is letting go and setting free your soul,

so that it may soar with eagles and sing with angels.

No love is worth grieving over,

except for the one who never made you cry.

Regret not a second.

Cherish and embrace the gift of yesterday.

Laugh, dance and celebrate the present.

Life is beautiful.

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:28am
life sucks for me at this point too..i found out that not only is he dating someone else so soon, but the new girl has 2 kids, why did he choose her over me? i know exactly how you feel, but dont say you will never love again or you can never be with a man, because there will always be someone else who will treat you better, not like how he treated you, i know these are just words and not a reality but it will soon be, dont give up on love, just learn and be careful next time. im hurting too, it hurts twice as much knowing hes with someone who has responsibilities, maybe they want other girls that are different from us thats why they chose them, but i believe there is someone better out there for us, pls dont lose hope...i know im still hoping. hang in there..keep posting it will make you feel better, trust me