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Missing him.....
| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 11:41am |
Hi Everyone.. I have been posting alot since last week when my BF broke up with me after 2.5 years. I am so hurt, and I am going through the stages. We saw each other MOnday nite and he stayed over, him well knowing that he did not want to hurt me. Well- we had a good nite and I have had NC with him since. I am scared, concerned and wondeing IF he will come back after he finds himself. I am not over him at all. What else can I do? it takes alot just to get up and go to work... I know he LOVES me and cares for me,,I have been reading He's Scared, She's Scared, it helped. But not alot.. I know he may be a CP, since he ALWAYS wanted space... And I gave it to him... I feel sick inside, I feel sad, abandoned, and he said to me: I am not going to turn my back on you, unless you tell me too. WHat did he mean by this??? I am so messed up, inside....
Lonely and MISERABLE CJ :-(

Don't expect to be over him in a day, a week or a month. It takes a long time to get over someone you love, but you have to be proactive about it and not just sit there and cry all the time and saying "poor me". People have heartbreaks everyday, whether it is a marriage, a death, or a relationship. You can't stop living your life because some jerk couldn't see all the good inside of you.
PLEASE start learning to put yourself first right now. You have to get into your mind that he probably won't come back. You have to start letting go now, and to do that, you have to stop all contact. No more phone calls, no text messages, no emails, no IMs, no visits and most importantly - NO SEX!
It always gets worse before it gets better, so get yourself through this time in a happy way. Call some friends up and spend the holiday out with them having a good time. Put your ex as far from your mind as you can and be around people who are having a good and happy time - and pull from them all the energy and spunk you can. You almost have to FORCE yourself to have a good time during the initial break-up phase, but its important not to shut yourself out from the world around you.
Take care, and I'm here to listen if you need it... my breakup just happened last night!
Sandra
PLease help me to figure this out... I feel your pain too....
As painful as it is (I nearly lost it at work today), I'm trying to see this as my chance for a truly fresh start on life. I can do whatever I want now... and I don't have to try and please him or be afraid of what he thinks. That feels really good, but also scary... I'm not used to being alone. I've been in long-term relationships since I was 16, including a marriage that I left for similar "finding myself" reasons, only to screw that up by meeting my now ex-b.
I think we should use eachother as sounding boards, and also to pump eachother up. I will check this board everyday to help myself, and I hope to help others in the same situation.
Do you really want him to come back? Honestly? Did he treat you the way you deserved? If you can't say yes to those questions, then maybe this was the best thing in the world for you. It will hurt (I know everyday, every hour is a challenge for me.) But through that hurt and pain clarity will come to help us to see the path ahead of us. I know that might sound cheesy, but I believe it is possible.
I'm hear for you whenever you need it...
Sarah
sarahalfreda@hotmail.com