final decission!
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final decission!
| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 12:33pm |
hey girls! fairly new to the scene and I've been reading you postings and relating to everyone of them in one way or another. So here's my story. I'm 26 and have been wih my boyfriend for 7yrs, we have a beautiful daughter together that I wouldn't give up for the universe. Over the past year and more so over the past 6mths I've been thinking of leaving him. Good points first- he is handsome, well built, fairly young (34),a good friend and a great father. The bad points- he uses drugs, drinks( acts like a complete idiot when he is), has violent tendancies(broken electronics, holes in the walls), controlling and he thinks more of himself and makes sure I fully know it. So guess what I've got doormat sindrome! I've let him use me as a doormat all this time and now I'm fed up! So I'm leaving. The only problem is his reaction when I walk out the door. He thinks everything is fine in our relationship( darn I'm a good actress!:))all the while making a game plan to leave. He has already told me I get nothing when I go except the clothes off my back. That's ok by me i can get new furnature and start over, I'd do almost anything to get him out of my hair! I think just writting this makes me more resolved to leave. but I'm still scared of the reaction and the WAR i'm going to have to fight because of my daughter who will no doubt be going with me. I know what I have to do but I'm having trouble getting over the fear hurttle. I guess I'm writting cause i need a kick in the butt from some unbias people.My friends are telling me to leave and that it would be best for me but that is thier bias opionion. So I guess I'm looking for some words of encouragement. Any thoughts or opionions would be greatly appreciated.
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| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 1:58pm |
I am guessing that becoming a mother has allowed you to open your eyes like never before. You are probably a different person than when the two of you got together. Sound like you have grown and he hasn't. Even without your daughter's future at stake, his bad points alone would be a good reason to get out. You do have to think of your daughter, and I think that should give you even more reason to leave. He sounds insecure and controlling. What good friend would tell you that if you leave, it will be the with only the clothes on your back? Good friends hold your best interests at heart. They don't make threats. You sound very strong and I am sure you will make the right choice.
