hard to accept they are happy now

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Registered: 06-26-2004
hard to accept they are happy now
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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 9:34pm
why is it so hard to accept that after a few weeks they are now happy and that hes so happy with someone else now. why is he happy with her and not me? just when i thought the crying stopped, i find myself taking steps backwards....i cannot move on, its so hard. is there anybody out there who can tell me when this will stop..i want to be happy too but why is that so hard to reach right now...
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 12:11am
darling...

breathe.

just a few weeks? i promise you he's not head over heels for this new girl, its just so unlikely. she sounds like a typical rebound, and everything's always easy int he beginning, and she's probably a nice distraction so he doesnt have to address of any of the issuesof your break up.

and its so natural that its paining you to see this happen! i cant give you an exact date as to when you'll feel better, but time is really the best medicine. in these moments its so hard to imagine that there is light at the end of the tunnell but i promise you there is, things always work out its just a hard climb.

be patient with yourself, allow yourself to be upset but also keep optimistic, know that there are great things in store for you, that you will be happy with somebody else too,a ndtaht this feeling will pass.

and as always, keep posting

ace :)

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 12:14am
he is probably just happy for one reason if you catch the drift..she is probably giving it to him good but it doesn`t mean he is better off than you..if you wasn`t good to you,believe me he won`t be any better to her..
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 12:47am
wut does she have that i dont, thats wut i always ask myself, why is he happy with her and not me, something i cannot answer. why wasnt i enough. its so hard to move on, why cant u just sleep and then the following day its gone??
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 12:52am
sometimes i dont know how to think anymore, i wish i can just forget about him and move on just like that, but its so hard, right now, it hurts so much because fourth of july is when we always have a vacation, this is the 1st after 4 yrs that im not with him and its hitting me so hard...i dont know if i really love him or im just lonely because i have nobody, but if im just lonely cuz i have nobody, then y do i always think of the good times? why do i always think and ask if we will still see each other? it hurts to think that there may never be chance to see each other again or hold or hug each other...how can u let go and move on? why is it so hard to let go of someone who hurt u?
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 1:39pm
sorry...what i meant was maybe he is more interested in oen thing with her right,alot of guys are like that,rebound,just using girls for sex when just got out of a relationship..or they try to replce you and even though he may be happy with her right now,it doesn`t mean you will enver be happy..and if he was a jerk to you,then he will eventually treat her the same..i am over feelings for my ex and would only be jealous if I saw him with a girl because I would wish i was the one dating someone,so that is how I knwo i don`t care about him..and soon you will be at that point,trust me
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 7:11pm
Welcome to the board! It's normal to feel the way you do....it's still early in your break-up and it's perfectly natural to still be longing for him. I'm sure he misses you to but just isn't showing it. You'll be fine and you'll get through this...it's just going to take time and I know that's hard but we're here to help.













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Registered: 06-26-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 5:48pm
a lot f=of people say it will be better, but why isnt it? went to vegas over the weekend so i have something to do, but everytime i was out i can only imagibe all the the 4th of Julys we were together. it was so hard all i wanted was to go home and hope that he would call and say he wished we were watching the fireworks, but of course he didnt :(