Where do I start?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2004
Where do I start?
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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 5:21pm
Last night my boyfriend of nearly three years, whom I live with, called me from his summer job (three states away) to tell me that he wasn't ready to handle our relationship, that he needed to find himself and grow as a human being. He said that our relationship took up so much of his mind that he couldn't concentrate on his own growth. We moved away from our home together this last year, and I thought things were going well; some bumps of course, and I knew that marriage was a very scary prospect for him. But I didn't expect him to suddenly freak out and leave me hanging.

The worst part is, we're here for his schooling. My family is far away, and I am still in our apartment, staring at this life that we have built together all this time. He hinted that maybe we could live apart for awhile, but he couldn't definitively tell me that he wanted to be with me, that he was still in love with me... and now I'm left with this tremendous aching and I feel numb. I can't sleep or eat, and though I have made some good girlfriends here, he was unquestionably my best friend in the world. I have been crying and screaming all morning into the afternoon.

Where do I start in this process? How can I let go after such a sudden break-up?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: hopesar
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:40am
Welcome to the board!! I'm sorry you're having to go through this...I know it must have been a pretty big blow to your system. I think you need to focus on you and your life and for starters to get out of that apartment that has nothing but memories of the two of you...the longer you're there the more it's going to torture you!! Try and stay busy. Good luck and keep us posted!!













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