How long has it been..

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Registered: 08-17-2003
How long has it been..
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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 8:39pm
Since you and your ex have talked/seen each other since the break up?


For me, We broke up just over 2 months ago, And I haven't seen him for about a month, and I haven't talked to him in a week (the investigation for my job just finished, so he's blocked and deleted again :)... I'm getting there!!!


I was thinkin, it's too bad we all didn't live in the same city, imagine how much fun all us "heart broken" girlies could have on a night out in the town together? ;)

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 11:22am
Hi, i agree with you! I tend to forget reading these posts about your lives and sharing mine, that everyone is from around the world, and not right here where I live. I've thought about how great it would be to hang out with all of you one night, it would be quite a night, and guys watch out!

Christan

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 11:49am
It's been 3 months since I have seen or talked to him. It has been 2 weeks since an email exchange where he admitted that he acted like a selfish coward for forcing me to be the one to end the relationship (and initiating NC). Selfish because he knew he would miss me and didn't really want to stop seeing me, and a coward because he didn't want to hurt me so he wasn't honest with me. Guess what, I was hurt anyway. Would the truth have hurt any less? No. But it would have made me feel like I was worthy of being honest to. Like he had an ounce of respect for me. So he continue the relationship knowing that his feelings couldn't match mine (love ya, not in love) and while he pursued his feelings toward an old girlfriend (was in love with, probably still is). I don't think he would have broke things off until he knew where this thing with his old girlfriend was going. That makes me feel real great. Not as good as C----(old gf), but better than nothing.

I admit that I went against all advice and poured out my hurt and anger in a return email (hey...he's the one who brought it up). It was not nasty, actually it was very well written and thought out. Needless to say, I haven't heard back. Not a big surprise from a self confessed coward. I am guessing that most of what I said hit a nerve, or else he would have wrote back refuting it. I had hoped that one day, we could have at least been friendly (if not true friends) with each other. An occasional "hey how's it going?" email. We live in the same community, so chances are that we will run into one another eventually. It would have been nice to have cleared the air so when that happens we can at least be cordial to each other. But if he doesn't respond to my email, then I guess the chances of that happening are nil.

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 1:16pm
it's been 5 months since the break up. 4 months since our last semi-convo. 3 months since we last spoke (group related). a little over 2 months since we last saw each other. It's getting better and better but I always seem to have low points during each month. I like my life now though. I do miss him and wish we could talk but hopefully the feelings will continue to fade and one day we will be able to talk and be friendly. He's a good guy but has tons of issues and insecurities, which made him act so cowardly. ARG!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 1:44pm
It's been 6 weeks since he said he was seeing someone else, (not sure how long the exact breakup was, it drug on for 2 months before that). But I saw him last Thursday night, and he hugged me, but wouldn't kiss me even though i tried (with the help of 3 beers and not proud) but ended the night with him calling me drunk begging to come over, in which I said no. I am supposed to have moved on and deep inside I haven't. Him turning me down broke my heart all over again, and then calling later for the "booty call" well, I wish it could have meant more, but thats all it was. Seeing him again didn't help things, I thought I could handle the friendship, but alittle alcohol and I lost it.

At least I said no, and that was the right thing, and it means he might not try again which is good right? It isn't love he wanted to give, just a wild night. I am on the mend again....

Christan

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 4:08pm
It would be fun if we could all get together for a night on the town. Ever since my breakup I've realized I don't have many single girl friends.

It's been 5 months since my breakup and 2 weeks since I saw him. For the first 3 months I was getting much better each day but then we saw each other and he started calling me all the time... telling me he missed me and still wonders if he made a mistake. I actually listened even though I knew he was dating someone else. 2 weeks ago we saw each other again and we wound up getting into a fight because I wanted to know if these "talks" were going anywhere since he was seeing someone else. After that I told him to never call me again... but yesterday I broke down and sent him an email. There are too many things to explain about our 3 year relationship, but I guess deep down I hope he figures out his committment issues. I know I still love him and if he ever came back I would want to work things out... but in the meantime I am enjoying being single and meeting new people. It's kind of nice having all of the responsibilities that we accumulated while living together.

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 8:40am
I agree with the night out on the town plan....startin' to get really sick of playin' third wheel around here lately...

It's been 4 months since the break up, we were still at school and living across the hall from each other, it's been a little over 3 months since he lied straight to my face when I asked him if he was seeing someone already...and that someone that he denied seeing was like a sister to me....it's been 2 months since school let out and had no contact with him...and I miss him...but I don't! He screwed me over big time, and there is no way in hell that I would take him back ever, he doesn't deserve me or my time. But...there are times when I just break down and think about all the good times...or what I thought were good times...and I just hope that someday soon he will come back and realize what a fool he was and beg me to take him back....but I still won't. It would just be nice to know that I'm being missed and he's as miserable as I was/still sorta am. Stupid boys...can't live with 'em...can't live without 'em.


~*~Zsa

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 9:32am
It's been 13 or 14 hours since we last spoke. I'm not doing as well as you ladies!!

Where does everyone lives? I'm in NJ.

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 9:47am
WI for the summer...then back to school(MI)...and where he will be =\ in Aug.

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 11:20am
I'm from FL. I too have thought about all of us going out but doesn't seem like we are close at all.
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Registered: 01-07-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 11:30am
That's too bad. I'm sure we'd all have a blast! I'm going to Jacksonville, FL for 3 weeks on business beginning July 11.

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