I was too jealous
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| Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:57am |
I am facing a problem here and I'd appreciate any advice I can get from everyone.
I dated this guy for about 4 months and last week he broke up with me over the phone. I had known him for 2 years before we started dating; unfortunately, when we started, we were living in different countries and thus it was a long-distance relationship right from the start. However, we had plans to try to move to the same country within the next few months.
Everything was fine until my best friend (whom he had a brief fling with 2 years ago) found out about us and has since been trying to break us up. She feeds me stories about him and constantly made me doubt whether it will work between us. Since we couldn't see each other much, it really just made things worse, I was constantly worried if he was cheating on me.
Furthermore, she also seems to want him for herself. She'll do things like offer her place for him to stay when he visits the country she stays in (he goes there a lot for work.) He never took up on the offer but I was really paranoid one day. I confronted him and gave him an ultimatum: if he ever stayed at her place, then it would be over between us. He hung up on me and refused to pick up my calls. The next day, he called and broke up with me. I begged with him to reconsider but he was pretty adamant and refused to budge. Since then, I hear he doesn't even contact my best friend whenever he goes to the country she's in.
I haven't called him since the breakup but 2 days ago, I wrote him an email apologizing for my behavior. I told him that I wished we could still be friends like before. I must admit I was hoping he would change his mind about the breakup and take me back. Unfortunately, he just replied me saying he was sorry for hurting me and that he also wished we could still be friends. His reply was brief, just telling me he had good times with me, and that he was sorry for hurting me.
I will be moving to the same country as him in a few months, and I hate to say this but I am still hoping for a reconcilation. What do you think? Do you think he will ever want to try it out again even after my outburst?
Thanks.

good luck
Kristine
Thanks for the warm welcome, that was really nice. And of course, thanks for the sound advice :)
Just to keep you posted on my situation....I called him 2 days ago, and he seemed ok, didn't really talk about the relationship, just how we were doing with our lives and stuff. I must say I was more disappointed than embarressed because I have to admit I was hoping he will take me back. But when he didn't I just let it be and said bye. I suppose you're right, it's better to mend the friendship first.
As for my friend....well, I haven't confronted her or anything, but I have since kept my distance. You're right, she's nothing but a back-stabber.
And also, I won't be moving because of him. I've actually planned to go back to graduate school for some time (even before we started dating) and I think it will be good for me because I really hate being where I am currently.
Thank you again, and I will keep you posted :)
Take care
Kristine