Is this revenge bad?

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Registered: 06-19-2004
Is this revenge bad?
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 2:32pm
HI!

My ex who I am still in love with broke up with me completely ( we broke up already 4 times, but now its for real;)) and is back with his ex who his was with for a while when we were sleeping together also...can u still follow it!? We have been having sex for almost 4 months...

Anyway...I have now found out his ex name and email , who is now his girlfriend again and send her an email telling her everything about him and me (because she didnt know yet). They have been together for 6 years so this is quite terrible I suppose. I wanted her to know what a bastard he is (cos I am in so much pain I am crying everyday about it)but the main reason is, I can be honest here, that I wanted revenge and be nasty to him...

Is this bad? Very bad...? I am a sweet person really but ...I needed to do this...

I would like to know other opinions...!

Samie

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Registered: 06-19-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 4:21pm
Samie,

This is just my opinion. It must feel pretty good to know you hold the fate of your XBF's relationship in your hands. But, don't do it! If you could safeguard yourself against any retaliation of any kind (i.e. say the other woman is a psycho and comes after you with a knife), I would say do it! But, it doesn't sound like you know her. Besides, if you do tell her, and she's gullible, he'll just tell her that he's sorry and it may end up bringing them closer together--and stacked against you.

He is out of your life now. Wash your hands of it. You may tell yourself that you're just trying to protect her, but anything the "ex-girlfriend" says isn't going to matter to her. (Think about it. If you're in love with someone, and his ex comes along saying he's sleeping with her, who's face will you get in? His? I think not. You're going to get it on with HER.)

Think on it a while. If you do decide to do it, word it neutrally and BE BRIEF.

Good luck,

ML