Should I leave or am I jumping the gun?

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Should I leave or am I jumping the gun?
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:44am
Hi, I have decided to leave my boyfriend of 3 years. We live together, work with each other, raise my daughter together...but I am just not happy with him. He does not want to break up but there is just no friendship or laughter anymore. Has anyone experienced this? For example...I came down with food poisoning on July 4th. My mother took my daughter and I was bathroom ridden for the entire night. I called him 4 times and left messages throughout the night to come and help me. He never called to check on me or anything. If I would have called any of my girlfriends they would have rushed to help. This just really topped everything off for me. I haven't confronted him on this because I am just done talking about our "issues". All we have been doing for a couple of years is trying to work our way out of his F-ups... excuse the french :)I am tired and worn out from waiting for him to turn into some prince charming. I think he has a drinking & partying problem. I am 26 and he is 37 and our lives are just so completly different. I know he loves me...as much as he can...but that's just not enough for me. Am I being selfish? Please give me some perspective... Oh, by the way...he does not drink at home. In fact, when he drinks, he doesn't even come home until 2 or 3 in the morning...way after we are sleeping. My daughter and I are moving on Friday. Thanks :)