Can't deal with this anymore

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Can't deal with this anymore
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Sat, 07-10-2004 - 3:06pm
My boyfriend and I broke up in mid-May and then the first week of June, we chatted online and he asked if he could come over so we could talk face to face. I agreed. In any case, we talked things through, had a good conversation and mutually decided that we wanted to try to save our relationship. So for a little over a month now, we've been seeing each other again, mostly simple things like going out to eat and taking a walk and talking some more afterward.

Well, I thought things were going well. I was being cautious, but thought we were on the right track to addressing our problems.

We saw each other this past Tuesday and again, it was a good evening and I felt good. Well now I haven't heard a thing from him since then and I don't know what's going on. Worse yet, yesterday was my birthday and no phone call, e-mail, no nothing. The lack of acknowledgement really hurt my feelings and disappointed me.

I just feel bad because now I have to go through the process of dealing with the breakup all over again. I just don't have the energy to deal with this anymore. Time to move on once and for all.





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Registered: 10-07-2003
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 7:26pm
That really sucks.

Hang in there, it will get better eventually . . .

~Rae
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Registered: 05-10-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 7:50pm
Mmm, that is no fun. I'm sorry and I know how you feel. That is the absolute WORST letting someone in again and having all that hurt start over. It's tiring, like you said. I've had that happen too, it's so inexplicable how intimate and close they'll be one day and then bam you just don't hear from them. some guys are cowards, geez, can't make up their minds and can't face anything head on. Maybe he was freaked out by your birthday, I think some guys don't like dealing with *occasions* which is silly in my opinion, i don't see why it has to be a big deal. but anyway, I'm sorry for what you're going through and I would recommend not taking him back again. half a month isn't enough time to solve anything. Good luck.

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Registered: 07-12-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 8:55pm
Been there, done that. Break up, boyfriend comes back, I cave, and then he treats me like crap. He spends weekends with his friends, calls me about every four days. I just don't understand. So, we break up again and the healing process has to start all over again. Here I am kicking myself for my stupidity of caving in to him. Why do guys do this? Why do they come sniffing around, make you feel like things may be back on track, and then pull away? I told him that next time he needs some action, he should go look for something at the bar to bring home and screw. He's just like a damn stray dog, I swear. Then I told him that I do not want to hear from him unless he can call and say he loves me more than the world and is ready to commit. That ought to keep him away for good.