What do you think of this new plan?
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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 4:30pm |
My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I recently broke up. During this time we have used both contact and no contact approaches. We had a pretty clean break up (all things considered) and we still love each other a lot. We have toyed with the idea of getting back together a few times, but one of always ends up not wanting to.
The other night I was talking to him when he was really drunk. He called and said how much he loved me. He told me the reason that he didn't think we would work out was because I would not be happy with him because he is not even happy with himself. He didn't think he was good enough for me. That was always a small problem in our relationship... I have my stuff together, I have my career, place to live, I am stable. He does not have that. But it never really bothered me because I know that he will get it together.
Well, the next morning... we talked in person and came up with this "plan." We are going to take 6 months away from each other and if I want to get back together in 6 months... then we will give it another go around. I have the choice to choose not to get back together, but he said he will be willing to try no matter what. He wants time to get his stuff together.
So this plan sounds kind of good to me. I can go date all I want, see what else is out there.... but if that does not work out then I can try it again with someone I really love (and I do see a future with.)
But then again, this plan seems kind of lame, too. What do you guys think?

It may sound lame to some but I think that it would be worth it anyway, at least you are not wasting years of your life for someone to "change" or "decide" what they want and it doesn't sound like it was a horrible relationship with issues galore, then of course I would say no. It's very viable this relatiohship is worth saving. How do you feel about it?