What Happened?!

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Registered: 07-11-2004
What Happened?!
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 6:24am
I posted this on another board as well, but I am in need of lots of opinions and advice!

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years came to visit me several days ago and started unloading on me. He began by telling me that he was unhappy in our relationship because I am currently unhappy with my job...never mind the fact that I moved to this area for him and had to settle for a job while he has the job he wants and will never give up! I came back to this region because I was expecting a future with him from the way he was and had been talking.

The next issue relates to our future. All this time, he was telling me that he wanted to marry me...we had even looked at rings and had my finger sized. Suddenly, he was unsure if I was "The One." According to him, he knows he wants to be with me and is not scared of marriage, but a "puzzle piece" is missing in his heart that tells him that I am the person he is meant to be with. Due to this lack of knowledge, he never knows when he could propose...he knows he WANTS to, but he is unsure when.

I am extremely heartbroken over this. It is difficult for me not to look back right now and think about how things were...I really expected to be with him for the rest of my life. Making it worse is that everything I see and hear seems to remind me of him and what we had.

What does all this mean? Why did he just drop over and tell me these things...that he can't tell his heart what it should know and feel? And how do I even begin to get through this? Please help!