My ex-gf wants to hang out...????

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Registered: 07-12-2004
My ex-gf wants to hang out...????
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 8:02am
After two years together, me and my gf brokeup. We met in college, and moved to San Francisco where I am from. During the relationship, we slowly started to fight more and more especially after we moved in together. We broke up pretty badly 2 weeks ago. Even though we fought, she was my first love and I wanted to be with her. So I made a last plea so we can work it out somehow. But she didn't respond...instead she ignored me for 2 weeks.

From that time, I've been progressing alot by calming my depressed feelings and taking care of myself. Now, she calls me out of the blue and asks to hang out.

I'm really confused because I do not know her intentions. She may just want the satisfaction of making herself feel better after she broke it off. I know she knows I took it pretty badly. A part of me wants to work it out, and another says I gotta look out for myself and not see her to move on.

If anyone has any helpful thoughts, please post.

thanks

~ph79

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Registered: 07-04-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 9:54am
I'm so sorry that you are going through this... my breakup happened a week ago. It sucks!

What I can share with you is that no contact is the best way to move on. It gives you the time and perspective to see your life without that person in it, as painful as that might seem. If I had been speaking to my ex this past week, I think I'd still be in the crying stage. But instead, I've had so many wonderful experiences with friends and just doing things on my own. I feel like I've reconnected with myself in such a great, surprising way.

You have to trust that little voice in your head. It will tell you which path is going to cause you pain, and which will lead you to a fresh new start.

I wish you all the best...

Sarah

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Registered: 07-12-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:03am
thanks for your nururing message Sarah.

Just had another altercation with my ex while I went to see her, and I've realized more today I deserve someone who respects and loves me.

~ph79

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 10:46pm
Welcome to the board!! I'm sorry to hear about your break-up but am glad that you've realized that you deserve better! I hope you decide to stick around so we can all get to know you better!! Good luck and keep us posted!!













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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 9:30am
See- everything happens for a reason. If you wouldn't have gone, you may have been left wondering 'what if'. Now you know!