the worst breakup ever - promise!!!!
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the worst breakup ever - promise!!!!
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 6:34pm |
I met this guy in October of last year. He borrowed an ungodly amount of money from me, totalled my beautiful car in a 3-car accident on Christmas eve, lied to me all the time (i.e. not telling me about other pregnancies with other women, having other "fiances" in the past, and lying about little stuff of which I caught him all the time), verbally abused me, had anger problems, and used me the entire time. We finalized the breakup yesterday, but here's the icing... he is now staying with his brother who lives in the same apartment building as I, so I see him all the time. I asked him yesterday to sign a contract stating a reasonable amount of which is owed, and he refused to sign it. He chose the action thus showing me that money is more important to him than me. I am so hurt to know that he never loved me, that he used me the entire time, and that I was naive and did not recognize it. I always had feelings of doubt, but I didn't listen to them. I am glad I am out now, however. Love should be a give-give situation, not a give-take situation. I put so much time and effort into attempting to help him and his life, and he did not make contributions to my life at all. I need to move on, but it's hard when you are still in love. What's more, the man I fell in love with is not the guy that he actually is. I learned through his actions yesterday that he is the opposite of how I perceived him (i.e. I thought he was kind, but he is instead manipulative, he has no integrity, etc), thus, my perceptions have totally shifted. I need to move on and use this energy in a positive way for my success in life. I am sad, frustrated, and unsettled about this circumstance.
Signatures On
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 8:32pm |
Welcome to the board!! I'm sorry that your ex treated you the way he did but ending the relationship is for the best. You'll get over this in time and come out stronger and smarter. In the future try not to be so giving.....you shouldn't have to loan your bfs money and your car.....and if you do get your contracts signed *BEFORE* you give anything to them...so you have proof of what they owe you in case they don't follow through with repayment. I'm sure you've learned your lesson though. The best thing you can do now is try and stay busy...spend as much time away from the apartments as you can and when you see him....try and go the other way as quickly as possible! Good luck and remember we're here for you!!

