WHEN to talk about getting back together
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WHEN to talk about getting back together
| Tue, 07-13-2004 - 7:42pm |
My live-in boyfriend of 3 and a half years just broke up about 3 weeks ago. Were both young, only 22, and he felt that he needed to experience life a bit before settling down. Although, I see his point--I dont feel the same. I would of happily settled down with him, but I guess girls mature faster then boys. Hes already seeing another girl (who by the way is everything he DOESNT want in a girl and has a horrible repuation of being a tramp) Anyhow, I miss him like crazy. We still talk every couple days or so and I really want to work things out. He doesnt know what he wants right now. I know 3 weeks is not long and probably too short of a time to begin to talk about working things out but how long do I wait. I know he misses me and still loves me--Im good friends with his sister and she tells me that and so do his friends. Basically Im wondering how long should I wait before I try to talk with him about working things out...I figure at least a month, but maybe longer?? I dont know. I just want to get back together--Id do anything. And when I do talk to him, do I just go to his house, or invite him to dinner or what....I DONT KNOW what to do.
thanks for any advice.

I don't mean more then them, because personally I loved my ex very very much. But, we deserve more than this treatment. Please, let him come back to you. Let him show you that he wants you and needs you. I know you miss him and feel like you'll never find anyone to replace him, but if he doesn't feel the same, what's the point? Guys are stupid, and we all know that. They have stupid priorities like making sure they get in bed with enough women, and you running back to him won't change that.
I guess I'm kind of saying this both to you and to remind myself. Like Vivian says in Pretty Woman, "I want the fairy tale." I want a man to sweep my off my feet and to tell me that I'll always be the one. I don't deserve any less, and neither do you. Just remind yourself of that, and in my honest opinion... do try and stop talking to him. It will *kill* at first, but I'm doing ok now and it's been over a month. I still get these terrible pangs in my heart and have the urge to talk to him (and ok I confess, I left a lyric from our song in my away message on instant messenger today and he left the next line in his message... it was kind of our own way of squeezing eachothers hands and telling eachother to hold on without breaking the silence). If for no other reason, don't talk to him so that he can see what he's missing. If he loves you (and if my ex loves me), they'll be so tortured they'll come back...
If you ever need to talk, I would love to commiserate and be sad and pathetic together. My AIM name is raquelita18. Feel free to message me.