Wallowing in it...

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Registered: 07-10-2004
Wallowing in it...
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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:18am
I'm trying to stop wallowing the the grief and I'm trying to move on....Saturday will be four weeks...and I still feel the same amount of pain...I feel like a big baby...and I know I'm making such a big deal over something that I shouldn't...but I'm having a real hard time just picking it up and moving it on....now I'm finding myself sleepy all the time...even during the day at work...despite sleeping all night...I still can't concentrate and the knot it my stomach is at tight as ever...I feel like I'm in a ZONE or a funk and I can't get out of it. I try to do stuff...but I just am so tired of making myself do it...I dont know what to do.
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Registered: 05-30-2004
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:34am
Hey, don't be so hard on yourself. Despite what you think, four weeks is not alot of time. At four weeks it was all I could do to keep it together. I still feel like there are times that I am hanging on by a thread and it's been two months and two weeks. It takes a long time to get over a breakup. I felt all the same things you did and one day, like magic, they just went away. Yes, it took long while for that to happen but I promise you it does. I still have a hard time going out and doing things. Every time I do, I think that I should be doing this with him. I wish more than anything that none of us had to deal with the pain and heartache. You're going to be ok, it will just take time. If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me. I totally understand how you feel and have been there myself. Hang in there! Remember every day is just one day closer to being healed!
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:54am
Hi Aloneagain,

I really wish you would change your name, because again you will not always be alone. You sound deeply depressed, you mentioned that you had been going to a therapist, what did she have to say about it? Do you have any pets? (NOT A FISH EITHER) I'm telling you after my break up with my ex my little dog was the only thing that got me out of bed. He knew I was sad and would just come lay on me or he would do something so funny. I would really suggest looking into getting a pet. Also, what is a deep desire you have always wanted to do? Take a kickboxing class, work out more, go sky diving, paint your apartment. Make up your mind to do it and DO IT.

You need to focus on making yourself well depression is very serious. Laying in bed or sleeping all the time is wasting your life away. Trust me you don't want to do that. I'm sorry you hurt so bad and trust me I understand how it feels, but you don't want to get so bad into a deep depression that when it is time for you to meet someone else you can't. I'd really focus on some of the things I listed above.

It is going to be ok I promise! Time heals all wounds.

April