HELP!

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Registered: 02-03-2004
HELP!
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 3:40pm
This is a continuation of a previous post I had (Hearbroken and Need Encouragement). Long story short, my bf of 2 years decided he needed "space" so as much as it hurts, I have given it to him, haven't contacted him, haven't seen him (I miss him soooo much). He has called me several times to chat, I have been cool and calm and supportive. Well he calls me last night around 12, after a particularly hard day missing him, I was trying my best to be sweet and not show him that I am sad. Well, I sort of got to my breaking point and I just asked him "are we over?" his reply "I don't know yet" I was very upset, but didn't show it. He insists he loves me and misses me blah blah blah... I guess my point - is this fair to me? I feel I am owed at least some logical explanation for all this. I am being respectful of his wishes, shouldnt he return the favor? I don't believe in this inbetween thing, going from seeing each other everyday and talking on the phone to this occasional thing??? I am starting to feel used and he wants me to be his girlfriend only when HE wants me to be. Am I overreacting? Being selfish? Would it be foolish of me to call him and try to discuss this? I am sooo frustrated and hurt, I don't know what to do! Someone please help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2004
In reply to: ddinkle
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 4:16pm
You are dead right to think that you deserve an explanation! Being honest with him would help, why dont you call him and tell him the truth, that you cannot handle this "being friends" and his occasional calling. It puts your life in a tailspin, because you care for him! Therefore, as much as you love him, tell him not to call and be merciful to you. This way it will give him time to think, and miss you. Dont let him keep you over the fire like that! Good luck! :)
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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: ddinkle
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 7:46pm
I think you already know the answer to your question....it isn't fair to keep you hanging on.....he either needs to embrace you and your love or cut the cord. I don't see anything wrong with calling him to discuss this as long as your prepared for what could happen....as in a definate end to the relationship. Good luck and keep us posted.













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