Having contact with my EX..
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Having contact with my EX..
| Fri, 07-16-2004 - 4:00pm |
Hi- I am wondering what comes next.. My Ex and I are having contact... It is purely on him, I have not been contacting him at all. He calls me every 3 days or so - to say hi or wanting to Hang out.. Well a few of those times, I have seen him Which I KNOW is not good if I expect him to TRULY know about his feelings for me.... It is very tough- He even asked me just a few days ago: If we hang out does that mean we are tgoether? I told him you tell me , you are the one questioning it.. I just feel weird, and I feel like he wants to come back, it has not even been a full month... I think he likes his time alone- but then misses me..
what do I do about him?
CJ

yet the wounds are not necessarily closed for a long time, maybe not ever, but i dont know. my ex and i saw each other at a party 4 months after breaking up, and the 4 month period involved very little contact aside from a casual email here and there. after seeing each other at the party i felt like i reached closure. there was somethign about seeing him that way, realizing that i didnt want to be in a rleationship with him anymore, and being happy to see him but nor eally caring one way or another to be close to him--that feeling was GREAT after so many months of being miserable and missing him. i realized i was missing a memory of somebody who no longer exists--and maybe never did?
since seeing him at the party we exchanged a few emails. they've been very friendly and relaxed, not awkward. yet i know we have to be careful. in every email we write we say things like "call me if you want to hang sometime" or "we should check this out, i know we'd like it" although we certainly havent hung out since. does this mean we want each other again? i have NO idea. i think its more just saying the nice thing, trying not to be hurtful, making the other person know that they mattered to us, and that we havent forgotten them, that we dont want to say goodbye forever.
you have to be careful of reading too much into things. when your ex is contacting you it doesnt mean he wants to get back together. getting your hopes up is a sure fire way to get disappointed. and if you're wondering, deep down inside (as i fear IM wondering) if this contact will lead to something more...then you might not be ready for it yet.
just some of my own thoughts since im in the stage of trying to be friends with my ex too...