I FINALLY did it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2004
I FINALLY did it!
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Sun, 07-18-2004 - 11:22am
Thank you so much ladies for your wise advice. I finally took him off of my AOL buddy list and removed him from my speed dial on my cell phone. All of his emails are safely stored in a folder (I just can't bring myself to erase them yet). I had previously removed all reminders of him from my home and office. Now I won't know when he is online and sit there torturing myself over it. Just another step towards moving on. I just hope my heart will follow suit!

For the full story read my post "Preventing Contact".

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 1:19pm
You go girl!! As much as we want to know how and what they are doing, in the end it is better not to know. The only way to move on is to let go and accept that it is over. It can be tough because it is like breaking up again. I too have all of his emails in a folder. I doubt I will ever get rid of those. I see no reason to do that. I wouldn't throw away letters he sent, so I see no reason to delete a record of our history together. I have found myself becoming detached from them anyway. Obviously what he wrote to me 17 months ago has no bearing on what is happening today. I just tell myself that was then, this is now. Feelings change and in a perfect world everyone we loved would love us back. But it is far from a perfect world.

You will find that once you start thinking with your head, your heart will follow a well.
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Registered: 06-19-2004
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 2:02pm
Well done! I know it must of been hard and probably you will regret it sometimes (but you know its the best for you)! But if you´re like me you will feel better soon...The only thing thats still going with me is that I hope all the time that he will contact me...

But I dont feel that strong need anymore to contact him and I wont...

Samantha

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2004
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 6:30pm
Congrats on taking that step......I haven't been able to do it yet. I know how it is to watch your buddy list for someone to log on just to see if they will speak to you. It sounds like you are getting stonger everyday. You owe yourself a pat on the back for that one. People say that everyday gets easier....I don't know if I really agree with that or not, but it sounds like it's working for you. Best of Luck!
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 11:03pm
That's great news!!! I'm so proud of you....I know it took alot to finally do it but it will be so much better then torturing yourself when you see his name lit up! Congrats and keep up the good work!!













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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 1:02pm
Have you been able to keep him off? Thats wonderful that you deleted him. I have had mine deleted for 7 weeks and yesterday and today I've put him back... I am going backwards??? What is the deal? I ran into him in the store and have passed him everyday this passed week on the hwy.... He was very nice but didn't seem at all interested in seeing me again. Talk about a roller coaster. You are an inspiration, I want to be where you are.