I CANT GET OVER HIM! HELP!
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I CANT GET OVER HIM! HELP!
| Sun, 07-18-2004 - 11:22pm |
Hey ivillagers, im 19 yrs old, and i recently broke up wit a longterm boyfriend- the reason for the breakup was that the relationship cooled down to a friendship, my ex and i are still very good friends..but the problem is i cant get over this other guy... ive known him since i was little but we lost touch when we were 6, and i re-met him a month ago through a friend of mine and we were both very very flirtatious the first two weeks we were talking...we talked online a lot. he obviously liked me and i liked him and we both knew it, but he didnt want to pursue anything because he needs to focus on school cuz his grades were so bad the semester before, but he did say he was very tempted to start sumthing wit us, so i was filled with hope. we only chilled together twice- both times at his house, just watchin movies, we were very flirty and on the second time we were kissing for a good hour. after the second time we chilled i asked him wat was goin on wit us, and he said that it was nuthing and that he still doesnt want to get into anything because of school. i was hurt but we still talked a little bit. a week later he tried to invite me over again and i told him that i dont know if i wanted to cuz i didnt want to go over just so we can makeout again and i go home sad and disappointed, cuz im looking for a relationship..not a fling. i guess he wanted me as a "hookup-buddy" and i turned him down, but now im here feeling very sad cuz i thought things wouldve worked out perfectly wit us, cuz it seemed that we both liked eachother but now i feel very alone and very very rejected...and now his away messages online keep saying things like "taking to a special sumone" or sumthing like that, so its obvious hes moved on with another girl. i know it must be silly to be so attached to sumone who ive only been talkin to for a month, but everything just kinda happened so fast, and i need to get over this guy, there is obviously no future for us, and i try taking him off my buddylist and not talking to him but he instant messages me sumtimes when im upset and stuff, so i cant entirely ignore him... i know this is all very confusing but if any of u can give me sum advice i would greatly greatly appreciate it!...thank u!

Get busy, find other things to do and occupy your mind.
I would strongly encourage you to stop responding to his IMs. Just move on....