Why is he keeping me so close???

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Why is he keeping me so close???
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 2:02pm
I posted before about how I emailed the ex of now 3 weeks about having no contacted, he emailed back, and then called when I didn't respond. This is my question- why is so intent on emailing me or calling me practically every day?? We hung out again on Saturday and he told me that he wants us to be together in the future, but that he needs to straighten out his life because he can't provide me with the relationship i deserve right now. So- I tell him i won't wait, and that he better pray i'll be around when he's finished. And he said "I think about that every single day..". And he's "afraid he's making the biggest mistake of his life- letting go of someone he can spend the rest of his life with". And he even admitted, that part of the reason why he is doing this is because of his friends!!!! He doesn't want to be ridiculed by his friends for getting back with me. Is this immature or what? He's 28 years old! I told him he needs to grow up, figure out what his priorities are, and start making decisions on his own!! He agreed, and even chimmed in on a couple of these things, so I guess it's great that's realizing it, but will he make changes?! Who the heck knows. He even said that I act like the 28 year old in the relationship (i'm 22). So anyway, his friend (the main one that would give him sh*t for getting back with me) was out of town last week, so, of course he called me practically everyday. Now that he's back in town, I didn't expect to hear from my ex since he'd be working with him, so what does he do? HE EMAILS ME! (Gotta make sure the friend doesn't find out!!) Why does he feel this need to keep me so close? Why is it that we can communicate about relationship so much better now, than before? The conversations we've been having now never would have happened before- he would have closed like a clam. And now he's so concerned about how I feel and what I need out of a relationship? YET he can't stand up to his friends. Such a shame. Any ideas on what's going on?