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6 1/2 years gone
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 8:28pm |
My boyfriend of 6 1/2 years just broke up, we've been together since high school and he was the first boyfriend I had. I'm 22 now and I don't even know what to do, I haven't been on any dates because he's the first person I was ever with. I am so lost as to what to do on a date, how to start dating again and what to say to someone. We were so comfortable around each other and would do anything in front of each other. You know how it is, I could say or do anything without thinking twice about it. How do I go on to dating and how do I stop comparing every guy that tries to talk to me to my ex? I'm just lost, any advice would help. Thanks.

I know you must be in a tailspin about now......it must feel like your world is crashing down...but things will get better. It's easy to understand why you're so lost...knowing he's all you've ever known. I think the first step is to get over him...and try not to think about dating anybody before that. When you're ready to date, you'll know. And it is normal to compare guys to your exs as long as it doesn't get too out of hand. We're here if you need us and I wish you the best of luck!!
I suggest you join groups/organizations, participate in activites, start a new hobby, exercise more, and hang out with your girlfriends more often to help you keep busy and active during the recovery period. The idea is that you don't want to give yourself time to mope too much. If you already have a passion for something (ie: work, hobby, sport, family, etc..), then develop that further. Put all your heart into it. As time goes by, you'll feel more fulfilled even without your former boyfriend by your side.
Hang in there, dear. You'll make it!
when you would normally call him to talk about your day, call a friend that you havent talked to in awhile. i know its hard to stay up to date with your friends, when boyfriends can tend to take up a lot of time.
spend time with your family. they always cheer me up no matter how down and out i feel.
spend time with your friends whenever you can. breaking up can be a blessing in disguise, and it will give you a lot more time to strengthen your other relationships.
its hard, and i'm still trying to get used to being alone. its going to take awhile, but you just have to take one day at a time. its been about three weeks for me, and i have my good and bad days, but try and focus on the good days and think about everything else in your life that you can be grateful for.
good luck, i'm here if you need to talk.