Is there 'The One'

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
Is there 'The One'
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:23am
I just broke up with a boyfriend that in my mind was perfect for me..the only downfall was that we live in different countries

i already posted my little story but i got a reply from haley420000 who mentioned that 'the one', the soulmate, doesnt really exist. i just wanted to see what everybody's opinion on this was. the way i see it, it might be true..but, i don't know if you will agree with me on this, there isn't an abundance of quality men out there (or maybe im searching in the wrong places). so, when you finally find the one that you love everything about, the one that is smart, funny and all around a good person, how do you let go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:28am
You let go by understanding that there is not "one" person who's made for you and that there are many people out there who can be just as funny, just as smart, just as good as your former boyfriend. I think I've replied to another one of your post before where I said that you needed to open yourself up to other possibilities. I'll reiterate that point here again and say that if you stay stuck on the idea that your former boyfriend is the only perfect person for you in this world, then naturally it'll be very difficult, if not impossible, for you to find someone else that could be compatible with you.

I'm not sure what approach you've taken in the past, but perhaps you're finding that there isn't an abundance of good quality men out there because you may not have taken the right approach to things? I honestly think that if you alter your mind-set, you might have better luck.