He's going back to his ex fiance
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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 9:59am |
We started spending time together beginning of August but were already casually hanging out and talking for about a month before that. I was always wary about the fact that he was once engaged but he always appeared like he was over her. It helped that she was out of town all summer until about a month ago. Unfortunately, on hindsight, he did start to get a little distant from that point on. I know he wasn't cheating on me because we were spending almost everyday with each other, and he's one of those guys that can't even handle casually dating more than one girl at a time. I think it was a case of her being back in town that may have set off some nostalgia.
Anyway, the bottomline is that he called things off last Thursday. I was on a work trip and called him and he told me on the phone that he realized he still had feelings for his ex and that he wants to work things out with her. It came as such a shock to me because just two days before that he seemed fine, and worse yet, before I left on the trip, he was his usual affectionate self. I guess I'm hurting so much because it came so suddenly. We've talked about things since then and he said I was amazing to him, had never had anyone treat him better than I had, but that the timing was wrong and he wasn't ready for me. I've not questioned him on why things were so sudden and what drove him to suddenly think about his ex, but I have a feeling it's because he had proposed to her last September and this time of the year is probably bringing back some memories.
I guess there's nothing much to be said about the situation. I'm writing because I need some encouragement and support. It hurts so deeply that just over a week ago he was holding me, kissing me and telling me he missed me and now he's holding someone else in his arms. I try not to think about it too much, but I can't help hurting! I want to gain some closure on this, learn from this experience and move on.
Thanks in advance for any kind of support or encouragement!
Jaded74

I know this hurts. Breakups always hurt, particuarly when the relationship was basically good. I don't know what to tell you. I feel your pain. I hear your sadness. I've been there, although not in the exact same situation you're in. I'm here for you. Feel free to email me if you want to obssess and write about him endlessly. I'll read every word you write.
We're all going through the same thing and we're here for you.