Well its been a month of nc
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Well its been a month of nc
| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 4:46pm |
Well it has been a month of no contact whatso ever, not really sure of how i feel right now, just cant seem to put a feeling to it. Can anyone explain to me why all of my clothes are still in the closet? Our pictures are still on the wall, Why has she not returned anything that belonged to me? Our relationship went sour over her over spending of money that reached out of hand,thus she had to get a second job just to pay her house payment. If you are interested please read money and responsibilty which i got a few responses to a few weeks ago, Any thoughts would be nice
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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:00pm |
WOW!!! A month congratulations!!! That's huge and you should be soo proud of yourself....i know that the 1st month of no contact is usually the hardest but you've made it thourgh and that's great!!! As for why she hasn't returned your things......there are so many possible reasons.....my guess with her is she may be a bit bitter and peeved the money train stopped and she had to get a job and take responsibility for her spending and decided not to return them. Have you asked her to return them? I think your best bet would probably be to cut your losses and move on. Good luck and keep us posted!! Don't forget we're always here if you need us!!!

| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:37pm |
No i have not called or asked her for anything, nor has she.She still has a autombile of mine also. If i go and get the car she will not have any means of transportation, none, nor can she qualify for a loan from any banks due to her being overextended. Her last remark to me was i got myself into this and i will get myself out.Yes i know that i should have not gotten into her house but i did and i feel soooooooo bad for doing it, It is just like i was living there Thaks so much for listning to a 50 year old baby
| Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:58pm |
You sound like a real stand-up kind of guy......and much more considerate then I. If my ex was saying the things to me that yours is saying to you....then I wouldn't think twice about taking the car.....whether she has a way around or not!!

| Fri, 10-01-2004 - 9:57am |
Thanks for your thoughts,i know without a doubt that if i took the car she would be in trouble, her family lives out of town, friends know deep down that she is heading for trouble,sometimes i just look back and think does she see the light. Sometimes it is all about her needs, her wants her desires. Over the past few months i have looked back a have seen her spending go so far out of control that it would scare most people.She is still paying back her best friend money that she borrowed about 3 years ago. In hindsight i think what about my needs, and they are i just want to be loved and appreciated for all that i have done, you cant even imagine what i have done. i did it because i felt it was the right thing to do, guess i was wrong, she has told every one that we know he doesnt want the same things that i do, oh well we will see what happens. in the last few months i wonder how many of the women at this site have said i want nice things and i will have them with or without you.
| Fri, 10-01-2004 - 10:36am |
First of all, you are not a 50 year old baby, you sound like a wonderful man! Obviously she doesn't care, is selfish and has problems. You should get your stuff back as soon as possible and let her learn a thing or two about life on her own. Sounds like funny advice coming from a 20 year old! Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to an individual that we love but they take advantage of our feelings for them as start using us. This happened to my with my most recent breakup and the first love of my life. Best thing to do it move on(easier said than done) and let them realize what they have done, she's going to have no other option but the learn how to manage on her own without using you. Then I'm sure in no time you are going to find that wonderful woman who will love you undconditionally and will be worthy of ALL you have to offer. Somebody who is going to take into consideration all your wants, desires and happiness not just her own. Good Luck, keep us posted!!
