when life will be fun??

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2004
when life will be fun??
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 8:47pm
Hi!

I am new in this board and this is my first discussion. I tried hard to reach you guys and happy to get u finally.

At this point of time I am under a lot of pressure. And my family and me are going through a very bad phase. Breaking up or I should say getting divorced from someone is not so easy ... when u see other person is not good and you cannot live together there is a provision for divorce. But to really get rid of bad people can cost you a lot... I am the youngest in my family and of 24 years of age. According to some people (so called relatives) this is the right age to get married but I don’t want to as1) I am not yet settle in my career 2) I want my elder sister to get settled in before me. But she is still in a process of getting divorced from last 3-4 years... and I don’t know how long it will take. They have power of money and can buy any person. We have engaged 2 advocates and they have influenced them with their money. And I am sure that I don’t want to get married before everything turns to be on right track. At this point to time I need to support my family. Kindly suggest me how to say no to such people and make my family happy and cheerful as we can't stop living and we need to have energy and positive attitude to fight with them. I believe everything is in your mind … if you think you can win you will win but how to develop that attitude into a person who is in depression and anxiety?

Thanks for reading.

Please suggest something

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 9:51pm
Welcome to the board!!

I'm a little bit confused by your post.....so I'm going to tell you what I got from it and you can tell me if I got it right or completely messed up.

What I gathered from your post is that your family wants you to get married but you don't but your sister is going through a divorce. Are you going through a break-up also?

If *you* don't want to get married then by all means don't!! I can understand that your family is putting tons of pressure on you but if you aren't ready then I have trouble beleiving you'll ever be truly happy. Just explain to them that one day you will get married but just not now. Good luck and keep us posted!!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 7:17pm
Hi,

Thanks for replying,

Actually at this point of time my family & me are totally fed up as we are not getting rid of bad people... my sister is not getting divorced from last 3-4 years we are just fighting the case. And the opposite party has power of money and they have tried everything to spoil our happiness... they had influenced our advocates. Even sometimes judges... but with god's grace we won the case & get it transfer to our state...now we have again taken the step to get rid of them but here also they are trying to influence authorities... we just want mutual divorce but they are not ready to give even that. Acc. to some of our relatives my sister's MIL is taking revenge from our family as she wanted to get married to one of my uncle and now she just want to hurt us throughout our life by not letting us settled anywhere....(FYI her MIL is our close relative). I got your point to convince my parents but kindly suggest me what to do to make them happy and how to motivate them to fight again for injustice. Life has totally stopped as my parents now just keep on worrying about our (me and my sister's) future

All the suggestions are invited, as I am feeling very low.