singing the blues.....

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Registered: 10-06-2004
singing the blues.....
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 8:56pm
I need a little advice. I am a freshman in college, recently broken up with my freshman bf in another college, after dating over a yr. While dating we rarely argued, but when it came time for college, he got really upset when we werent going together. I offered to end it, but he said no. His parents didnt want him going to college with a gf, but he did anyway. After about 5-6 wks, I couldnt take it, he was nice then distant, and the parents were still putting pressure on him. So I broke up about 2 wks ago. He was saying things will be better after football season, but then we will be home for Christmas, and since his parents still may not want him to have a gf, I didnt see the point in waiting. He called the next day to say he still loved me, etc. and then I didnt hear from him for 5 days. Of course I was hysterical, but I survived. On the 6th day, my college played his college. We didnt talk, but that nite he had a friend call and ask WHY I hadnt been calling him!! I said I was trying to give him space, and then the friend told me that bf was really drunk, and insistant that someone phone me. Then bf got on the phone and was rude, but I was polite and chatted briefly, just wrote it off to booze..The next day he called and attempted an apology, so I let it go. THEN I get email from his mom talking about how pretty I was, blah, and she took pics of me cheering and she loves me and Im special. This is the same family that didnt want him to leave home with a gf...but who knows?? I really like his family, I just think they worry about our age..OK,the next day I have about 10 missed calls from some # I dont know, then voice mail from one of bf "friends". I didnt call back, but they called again and I talked to some guy, then bf gets on the phone and chats. I'm really confused about this stuff. Why is it that when you give guys what they want, then they act so immature? I mean, we are NOT in jr high!! I really care alot about him. I know bf cares for me, but I just cant believe hes being so immature!! what would you guys/girls do in a situation like this?? Is this just his way of checking up on me? I have no intentions of getting in a serious relationship with anyone, my heart is still reeling from this. But I think this is just SO dumb!! please advise.....thanks....
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Registered: 07-26-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 9:04pm
No contact. Quit playing his games. You're just damaging yourself by allowing him to screw you around emotionally. Get busy with school, you'll be glad you did. Good luck.