I Broke Up, now he's calling

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Registered: 10-27-2003
I Broke Up, now he's calling
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 6:18pm
I broke up with my BF of 4 months about a month ago. I had had it with him disappearing and always being busy on weekends and not wanting to move forward in any way, so I ended it. He thought by taking time out for a few days that I would snap back under his control and stop questioning everything. Instead, I looked it all over and broke it off.

A few days later I called to talk to him and ended up in tears, trying to explain what i was going through. He didn't seem upset or anything, then he called me later that night at 7 p.m. and again at 12:30 a.m. from "our meeting place", he didn't want to talk, he wanted to go in and have a beer and go home. He said he wanted to know if I was out, but I wasn't, I was home in bed. OK.

So I gave him a few days and left a "thinking about you, let's talk" message. He never returned it.

I ran into him at an intersection near where I work, we also work in the same office park.

He was waving like crazy, I kept my shades on and made like I dropped something and didn't see him.

For the last 3 weeks, on Friday and Saturday, I get "Restricted No" calls after 9 p.m. on my cell phone. The first time I had been out at a friend's and was returning home at 10:30, I answered and nobody said anything on the other end, then hung up.

The second one was last Friday night at 9:30, I was on the other line and didn't click over, and they didn't leave a message.

Today at my usual lunch time (11 a.m.) I got another one, no one on the other end.

Can this possibly be him? Why not say anything?

My friends, as soon as I said what kind of call it was all said, "Well, you know who that is!"

Who else would call my cell directly that late at night? I did a test with another cell phone, same carrier and we did *67 and it came up "Restricted No." just like the calls I had gotten.

A guy friend thinks my ex is out drinking and thinks,

"I'll call her, or just listen to her VM greeting." Like that provides some comfort.

Any thoughts????

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 11:54pm
Why waste your time trying to guess who's on the end of your phone line? If it is him, then you're in a nice position of control by not calling back. If it's not, then you've wasted all your emotional energy and time fretting over a wrong number. Sounds like you made the right decision with this guy. Keep up the no contact. It's easier (though not easy) ending it now than later. Good Luck.