why am i so pathetic?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2004
why am i so pathetic?
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 1:33pm
Why do I let myself get upset from just seeing him? We work in the same building, it's been over 2 weeks since the breakup and I thought I was getting better. But everytime I run into him, my heart just sinks and my day is ruined. Someone tell me what to do. I'm tired of feeling the way I do and I'm tired of letting his mere presence affect me the way it does.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 4:56am
Very sorry to hear of your situation...I'm at six weeks with no contact. Although I still cry regularly, it is less intense and I am slowly healing. There is no way I could have done this if I been in circumstances where I would have run into my boyfriend now and then. It would be like having a scab pulled off a wound over and over. I know you don't want to hear this...but is there anyway you can change your job situation either through transfer or even a new job? It would certainly be inconvenient, but just the process of starting over in your occupation would help take your mind off the broken relationship. I have found that one of the "benefits" of no longer being in a couple is that I am pursuing career avenues I find more fulfilling simply because I have the time to do them now. Other than that, just altering your usual paths around the office (if you always take the elevator, take the stairs, etc.). Can you change the hours you work so they don't match up with his? Other women on this site have been in a similar situation, you might look up older postings to see what advise you can find. Good luck...
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:40pm
You're not being pathetic...your being human and you loved him (and still do) so it's natural to feel this way. Don't beat yourself up over this...it will pass in time. In the meantime try to stay away from him as much as possible and if it gets too bad you could always look for a job elsewhere. Good luck and keep us posted.
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