So jealous of the new girl.. PLEASE HELP
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| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:47pm |
Anyways, here's the deal. I'm a 21 year old college student who has been dating this guy at school for like 5 months (April of this year to August).. We got real serious, loved each other to death, blah blah you know the whole spiel.. But he actually was really special to me.. I have had other serious relationships that lasted years and none have felt like this.. It was such a passionate love I haven't found anywhere else and I'm afraid I never will again.. Well it was a great little relationship while it lasted.. He was sweet, caring, faithful, and loved me soooo much... (He's from another country and hasnt been home in 2 years so he even took me home for 2 months during the summer to stay with and to meet his entire family which I love to death!)
We broke up because it was my fault... I said it was getting way too serious way too fast and I just wanted to slow it down. He didn't understand what I wanted and we ended up just completely calling it off.. We didn't even speak for the first month of school. However, since we have sooo many mutual friends we eventually had to come to terms with eachother and have recently made up when I went to his house one nite and we just stayed up all nite venting everything that needed to be said..
After our little "venting session" things were fine.. We were friends, he helped me with my Spanish homework from time to time, etc.. It seemed like I was completely over him.. Thennn he got the new girlfriend.. And I realized how terribly jealous I was.. She's the complete opposite of me and it bothers me so much.. She's so air-headed and over protective of him and she hated me for the pure reason that I was his ex-girlfriend.. I began to miss him more and more everyday and it drove me nuts that this girl was getting... him!! My boyfriend who spent so many special times with.. ME!! I have all these special ties to his family and every time they talk to him they ask about me.. I'm the one who he shared all these rediculously special times with him and now this airhead is just moving right in and not even allowing me to be friends with him!
Anyways it gets even more complicated.. One nite when I had mutual friends over to play cards, he lied to his girlfriend and showed up at my house.. We were playing with my kitten, which we bought together and he named, when he started talking about how much he missed me and how much this new girl doesn't live up to his expectations. He was saying how he knew it wasn't going to be a long term relationship with her but he just needed someone to get his mind off of me.. It was everything I wanted to hear at the time and I found myself completely in love with him again.. We sat for hours and reminisced, danced, lit some candles, ended up kissing.. then one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.. Now don't get me wrong, this wasn't like random hook-up sex, it was like the passionate sex we had while we were in love.. And it was awesome.. but maybe a HUGE MISTAKE!!!
I thought it was a good idea at the time because it was what I wanted... him.
I thought- in the heat of the moment- that he was going to break up with her, and me and him would go back to normal and everything would be perfect.. Well it's been almost a week and although she suspects something happened that nite, he's managed to lie enough to her to keep them together... I even lied for him to her to help him out because I didn't want him mad at me..
Anyways, what should I do about this whole situation?? Should I pursue him or again start the whole terrible process of getting over him... HELP!
Thank you.. and sorry it was sooo long!
| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:06pm |

