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| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 1:22am |
Ok,
Well I recently had an engagement end, and now I am so pathetic I can’t stand myself. See I know that I am not a perfect person to me with and I do have my faults. The funny thing is that no matter what she did she was and always will be perfect to me. I still “Love” her so much that it is driving me crazy. She tells me that she knows that she wants to be together with me forever; and that she loves me but she says that I need to change my ways of being irresponsible. I can admit that I have been, but I think I have already changed……I know I can’t tell her that, but I need to show her that I have changed. Anyways, I want to get back together with her so bad I feel like I am driving her away by acting so ‘needy’! But I am afraid that if I don’t tell her that I love her then she will think that I don’t and walk away. I m also afraid she will find someone else!! Is this stupid? And what should I do? Sex has already happened since the breakup and it felt so great to be together but she made it clear that we were not back together……and it kind of hurt. Also, I am the one making contact with her and I can tell she is not trying. Do I not try anymore and just give up, or play a little hard to get? I am at my wits end and am so lost on what to do? I am A guy who has dated a lot and have NEVER been in this kind of situation before………What do I do?????????
Am I being selfish? Anyone please??????
Well I recently had an engagement end, and now I am so pathetic I can’t stand myself. See I know that I am not a perfect person to me with and I do have my faults. The funny thing is that no matter what she did she was and always will be perfect to me. I still “Love” her so much that it is driving me crazy. She tells me that she knows that she wants to be together with me forever; and that she loves me but she says that I need to change my ways of being irresponsible. I can admit that I have been, but I think I have already changed……I know I can’t tell her that, but I need to show her that I have changed. Anyways, I want to get back together with her so bad I feel like I am driving her away by acting so ‘needy’! But I am afraid that if I don’t tell her that I love her then she will think that I don’t and walk away. I m also afraid she will find someone else!! Is this stupid? And what should I do? Sex has already happened since the breakup and it felt so great to be together but she made it clear that we were not back together……and it kind of hurt. Also, I am the one making contact with her and I can tell she is not trying. Do I not try anymore and just give up, or play a little hard to get? I am at my wits end and am so lost on what to do? I am A guy who has dated a lot and have NEVER been in this kind of situation before………What do I do?????????
Am I being selfish? Anyone please??????
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| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 3:38pm |
You need to back off. Seriously. She needs to realize that she can LOSE YOU! I think she feels that you are there no matter what and it seems to be like that. You need to stop worrying about her so much and start doing some things you enjoy to keep your mind off her and start being healthy again! if you are to the point where you are at your wits end then you need to give yourself a break. You need to step back and figure things out for yourself...is she really worth it when she doesn't love you for your faults and perfections? if you think you have made the attempt to meet her "standards" then that is good for you, and she should be able to see that! All I can say is that relationhips are a 2-way street, and from what you have described it sounds like you're the only one making the attempt! Don't be so hard on yourself! Things will work out as they should, you just need to let them fall into place and stop trying to FORCE them into place!
| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 7:19pm |
I'm in a similar situation myself. I broke up with my ex and then I finally realized how much I love him. I told him I wanted to make this work and he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship right now. He says if its meant to be it will happen, but he defenitly knows he wont get back with me "today, tomorrow, or this year" (those were his exact words) So I tried for a month to prove to hime that i changed (which sounds messed up because I broke up with him because of his problems). I keep on getting rejected time after time. I left roses and letters at his door and he still didnt care. I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks. The last thing I told him was that he lost the most important thing in his life. He told me not to wait for him cause he isn't sure he want to ever get back together. He consumes his time with friends and girls, and I have to realize that i dont want a man that is like that . You get tired of hurting your self over and over again. This is hard for me to deal with but, if he wants me then he will be the one to call and try and make things work. I've exausted every way I knew how so I have to let it go.
