How do I decide whether I should go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2004
How do I decide whether I should go?
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 5:17pm
Hi: I haven't been here in a couple of years, but just the fact that I'm back should be telling me something. In short, I've been married for 32 years, a child bride & Mom. My H has been physically, mentally & verbally abusive, although he says that I am abusing him. He also has some substance addictions, that come and go. Sometimes he can forget them, other times he can't. I think we've split up 6 times, and I always go back.

I have a chronic illness--migraines headaches, and I'm really overweight. I am currently going to technical college, and will graduate in 2005. I don't work, it's hard enough going to college and managing the house.

I saw an attorney today, to inquire about what I can expect with a divorce. I'm almost convinced I should start proceedings, but then I read about if you're not sure, don't decide. I'm seeing a psychologist, too, so it's not like I'm going it alone. Any advice? Thanks!