in relationship 14 years.......

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2003
in relationship 14 years.......
2
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 6:56pm
My SO and I have lived together for 14 years. 2 years ago he told me he didn't love me anymore, but was going to stay with me for financial reasons, so we have been roommates.....

He suddenly told me 2 days ago that he is moving out either the end of this month or sometime next month, and suggested I find an apartment asap. He will pay my rent for several months until I get on my feet. I haven't been working for health reasons....

It is really sweet of him to pay my rent.... but I am SOOOO sad. Plus my son is 18 and it is like they are related )o:

just needed to vent to someone that would understand

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 11:46pm
i am so sorry for what you are going through but can i make a suggestion...?

you said you have been living together 14 years...it is nice that he offered to pay your rent for a while but in most states if you live together 7 years or more you are considered a common law wife and entitled to the same benefits as a wife if you split up...

please call legal aid or an attorney before you agree to anything...take care of yourself and your interests........he owes this to you

good luck and let us know how you are doing..

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2004
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 1:40pm
oh.. I know how very much it hurts... I was with my stb-x husband for 9 yrs... he walked in April... but for financial reasons we lived together, as roommates, until the beginning of August... I don't know how you did it for 2 yrs... it is incredibly painful... I don't have any good advice... just wanted you to know that I understand... hugs and be gentle with yourself...