Why Is He Doing This To Me?
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| Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:03am |
Tonight, he emails me wanting to know how I have been, said he would have called but he lost my number (ha ha) and then ends his letter with something like "not a day goes by where I haven't been thinking of you more or less."
Ugggggggggggggggghhhhh...why did he say this? This is not a friendly thing to say, I think, not a day goes by where I am not thinking of you, and he is still not getting the idea that I want to be the one to start communicating with him again.
He says on this message board I know of that he is feeling bored and lonely in his new surroundings. My friend thinks he just wants to eventually only sleep with me again. I'm back to thinking maybe there is some way we can compromise, that we want essentially the same thing but not in the same words. I think I am back to deluding myself.
I'm going to give myself a couple of days before I respond to his letter if I do at all. Hearing from him made me a bit misty eyed.
Can you all weigh in on what I should do? This guy sucks for not leaving me alone! LOL

a little background... he broke up with me after 3 yrs claiming we fight too much...
ANYWAYS, my advice is that its hard to stay away from someone you love... simply, i couldnt do it and now i still feel as hurt as i have been the first day he broke up with me... it came out of no where and i dont believe that i deserved this but that's beside the point... since you've been doing so well without having anything to do with him... KEEP IT THAT WAY... he's probably just realizing what he lost and trying to come back slowly just not to admit he was wrong... with my ex... everytime i try to block him out he weazles his way back in... its not something you should allow... think about it... if you cried when he left you... NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS... and you need someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not take you for granted... and it shouldnt take him 3 weeks to realize what he lost... and since you're not crying anymore and you've been able to live without him dont let him walk back in just because he feels like it... delete his email (because i know you saved it to read it over and over again) and remove it out of your mind (which maybe hard since you've probably read it so much you memorized it :)) but he's not worth your time to even click that reply button...
You should also stay away from reading the message board he posts on (indirect contact can be as harmful to your progress as direct contact).
Sheri
I have no idea what he is thinking...anyone who will not respect my boundaries can not be right for me.
I'm thinking of how recently when we chatted online (yeah yeah bad mistake) I told him I'd be sad when he got back to Korea, and he said "I won't." Funny how things go. Hope he is really thinking hard about why we are apart.