Did I do the right thing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
Did I do the right thing?
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 3:46pm
I just recently broke it off with my boyfriend of 2 years and am wondering if I am crazy!

This would be easier for you all to understand if my boyfriend, now ex, was a cheater or a liar. He actually was the nicest, most caring and loving man I might ever meet. The problem was that the feelings of attraction just were not there for me anymore. I couldn’t keep leading him on and talking myself into the relationship.

I hurt his feelings very badly and have been worried about him. I know I shouldn’t call, that would not be fair to him. He needs to be with someone who will truly appreciate his big heart and constant thoughtfulness.

The biggest problem is that I have lost my best friend. Is there any chance of regaining this friendship??

Have I possibly thrown away my one chance with a guy so great? Any advice is welcome, I’m confused and unsure as to how to get over this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2003
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 4:24pm
You did the right thing...if you didn't have the same feelings for him, you are a good person for letting him know and letting him go then dragging things out and making him feel deceived later. It's the irony in life that we don't love what is on the surface 'a good thing'. You have given your ex the gift of respect. Leave him alone and let him heal his broken heart. You may not get the friendship back, but you can be comforted in knowing that you did nothing that you would be embarrassed or ashamed of. I know you really miss the friendship, but it takes two people for that and if he's not ready for it, then he cannot be your friend right now (or ever). No matter how much you may want it or miss it. You'll have your best friend again one day, but it may not be him. Accept the changes in your life and do what's right for you. Good luck!

PP