OK...time for us all to stop!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
OK...time for us all to stop!
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Wed, 10-27-2004 - 7:36pm
after being on this board for about a month around the time of my recent break up i have come to a conclusion....

there seems to be a common theme in these post breakup posts....the woman is always waiting for the guy to decide if he wants to come back, or the woman is wondering what he is thinking and if he will come back....and the woman is waiting...

this infuriates me because by acting like this we are giving them the power....we need to take our power back...

just say to him fine you dont want to be with me then i dont want to be with you either....no phone calls, no emails, no friendship....breaking up means breaking up and moving on...and the sooner we can quit waiting for a guy to come back who clearly does not want to be with us...the sooner we get on with our life and meet someone who really does want a relationship with us.

Go girls!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 8:27pm
PREACH ON SISTA! i couldn't have said it better myself! as hard as it is to leave them in the past and move on, it's the only way to live and move forward! I totally agree with you! GREAT ATTITUDE! besides we're too hot for them anyway!
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Registered: 10-09-2004
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 8:32pm
RIGHT ON!! breaking up means breaking up like mine he wants to remain in contact because i told him im going back home...no hell no when i end something is over i dont remain friends with my exes 4 what????????????so yeah move on im working on that now and thinking about all the bad things they did helps big time!!!!
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Wed, 10-27-2004 - 8:39pm
AWESOME!! I hear ya! Time to move on to bigger and better things. We don't need guys who don't need us!!!!

Karen
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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 9:42pm
Very well put!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 12:06am
and i want to add one more thought or maybe it is a wish....

if there were no women who let guys get away with this....i dont know if want to be with you...or i dont know if i want to be in a relationship stuff....then the men would not jerk us around...the guys are doing it because we women put up with it...wouldnt it be a perfect world if the guys were afraid to break up with us because they might lose us while they make up their minds..lol