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broken heart questions
| Mon, 02-07-2005 - 2:18pm |
my bf of almost 2 years who i was completely in love with broke up with me. i think because we're at different stages in our lives....his friends are more important to him than i am. this is so hard because i am just soooo in love and want to be with him, and dont know what to do without him.
1) its really hard to start moving on because i really really think that after about a month without me he might realize that he made a mistake and want me back... how do i stop thinking about that?
2) how can i get over him?
3) what are some great things about being single?
thanks guys.

Dear keetee27 ,
I understand your problem perfectly as I am in a similar situation to you although I have started taking the baby steps of moving on.
My ex who's from the UK lives in France on a temporary basis (he got a 2 year contract there) and he lives there with all his other friends (most of which are single).I've had a long distance relationship (i live in Italy) with him and i realised that his friends were like a family to him .so when i decided that i had to move in with him he thought it wouldn't work out.
although he never said this i believe that the main reason for not wanting me to live with him is that he loves his freedom of going out and partying with his friends too much to be able to commit himself to me.
so the positive thing is this :
1.you no longer have to feel as the 'inferior person' to his friends!
2.you have all the time to do all the things you couldn't do while you were with your ex..perhaps taking up a hobby or travelling.
3. you are free to flirt or enjoy the attention of various handsome guys and choose any guy you like!
4.you deserve much more than an immature guy who doesn't appreciate you because he's too wrapped up in his friends.
yes,maybe one day this guy will realise that he made a mistake by dumping you (especially if all his friends start settling down with a partner), but then it would be YOUR CHOICE on whether you want him back of not as if does ever get back to you you might have already fallen in love with someone else !!
Since you don't really know whether your ex will want to get back with you I would suggest that you just think of your relationship as a past thing and that you must now look at the future with enthusiasm and excitement about the nice surprises it may spring up.
its gonna be hard at first.trust me as i am going through it, but as time passes by you find it easier to not think about your ex.
I can confirm this is genuine advice which i have been following myself!