Hurting

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Hurting
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 4:16pm

Hi, it's me again. I posted on this board a while back about ending a 4 yr relationship. It started up again about a month after that, and now it's finally ended. I didn't like the way I was being treated and there was no alternative.

So it's final now. We haven't spoken in almost a month. At first, I was happy and proud of myself for finally ending this whole thing because I was miserable. Not long after our split, he showed up in a chat room he knew I frequented and threw himself into a flirting frenzy. It was close to disgusting, actually. So why does my stomach turn and my heart sink when I see him doing these things? If I don't want him any longer, anyway? I know...I need to stay out of the chat room. But it keeps drawing me there...sometimes just to see what he's doing. Maybe he's doing it on purpose, I don't know. To me it makes me feel he thought nothing of our relationship, I don't know.

I don't know what I'm asking here, maybe I just want someone to give advice or let me know this is normal.

Thanks all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: annieinla
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 8:56pm
Of course this is normal... You were a couple for a long time. But you really do need to stay out of that chatroom. And he's not worth you trying to analyze and figure out why he's doing what he's doing. He probably just wants to show off... Whatever. Not worth thinking about. You need to let go and move on. Find another chatroom, but better yet - go out amongst people... join a club, pick a hobby, get active. Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: annieinla
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:38pm
If the chat room was one that YOU frequented then YOU shouldn't have to be the one that quits going there.
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