broken up should i see him?
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| Sat, 02-12-2005 - 7:14pm |
So we broke up last week he said he isn't happy with himself and cant' be with anyone if he's not happy and he doens't want a girlfriend and he needs to get himself together...he's 29 and just changed jobs and lives at home...and he has HUGE commitment isseus..hasn't had a girlfriend for 4 years before me...we only dated 3 months..but got pretty serious in those three months. He even broke up with me on the phone because he said if he had to look at me he woudln't be able to do it.
Well for valentines day i bought him tickets to a bulls game. Last sunday he said maybe we shouldn't go becuase it might confuse things...he said he'd let me know later in the week maybe he just needs some time. So wednesday we talked and he said he wants to go with me if i want him to. I was surprised because i for sure thought he'd say he would sell them or we shouldn't go...so whatever...thursday i asked him if he wants to see a movie saturday...he texted me and said "we are still going to the game that doesn't change anything right now" and "if it's gonna confuse things then maybe it's a bad idea" so told him to just go with a friend and he said "just stop we're going i'm sick and don't feel like talking about this" i haven't heard from him since...
my question is...should i go? i mean he could have gone with a friend..i would have just given him the tickets..he could have sold them..but he said he wants us to go..do you think he just wants to go cuz it's free and it's a bulls game? or do you think he feels bad cuz i bought them for him and he feels like he has to go? or do you think he really wants to go with me...
i just am afraid i will see him and it will make things worse and i'll want to be with him...like i will have expectations...get my hopes up.
i don't know what to do...

If the tickets were a gift for him, i would give them to him and let him invite whoever he chooses. It's not going to do you any good to go with him. It will just confuse you, and possibly get your hopes up for a reconciliation which may not be possible.
It's hard letting go, we've all been there. But you'll make it harder on yourself if you go to the game with him.
Give the gift in the spirit it was intended...i'm sure he'll appreciate that...but don't go with him.