Update on "the break"

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Update on "the break"
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 9:48am

Well the break is over, but so are we..for almost 3 weeks now, and i havent seen him in almost 4 weeks.

I have to say i am very suprised at myself and how well i took it, i thought for sure i would be a wreck and would break down everyday but i have only broke down a few times and called him a few times.
Lately though i have been taking it rather hard..had 2 break downs this weekend and for some reason i cant get him off my mind because i miss him so much, all i can think about is him and us being together, especially on the weekends which why it probably hurt so much.
I have left him a few messages and he hasn't called back so i think i just might give up on that because i really don't think he wants to talk to me, or misses me which also really hurts.

What i dont understand is when we first broke up he said he still wanted to be friends, talk everyday, hang out sometimes and that if i ever needed anything he would be there for me..that i could call him anytime of the day and he would answer his phone because he "cared", yet he hasnt been, at all.
He knows how hard i took this and yet he completely lied to me, i dont know why he would act so nice and caring one day and then a week later ignore me..

Is he completely over me..already? has he found someone new and thats why he isnt calling me? does he love me the least bit anymore?
I dont know what to think..how can you date someone for 10 months and then just be ok with not talking to them..it just hurts to think of the possibilities..

Why isnt he calling me..?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 2:39pm

As much as it hurts, he is probably just trying to move on. I would suggest you do the same. Stop calling, e-mailing, whatever. Sometimes guys try to "let us down easy" by saying they want to be friends, etc., but when it comes to actually *doing* it, they just don't come through.

I say spend as much time as possible with friends and family, and keep yourself super-busy. Try reading a book or two (Don't Call That Man was recently recommended to me) and maybe have a friend you can call when you're feeling weak. A friend who can "talk you down" and help you not to call him.

Best of luck to you. You *will* get through this.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 3:42pm
(((Hugs)))
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