What's wrong with him?

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Registered: 05-30-2003
What's wrong with him?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 8:08am

Hi,
What's wrong with him...why this discussion title you ask, well here is the list of reasons why..
this weekend, out of blue during an argument he announced that's it, it's over.

Now the history behind all of this is that this happens every 2 months, like clock-work. We'll have a disagreement, he'll blow it up beyond recognition and announce he's not happy, wants to leave etc. Well he's never left. He always comes back, telling me he's just not happy with himself blahblah. This time, i told him...ok, so you want to leave, well follow through with it this time. Then I told him that perhaps we should take a day or so to be apart and get our coolness so that we can talk again. Well he's left on Saturday night, and came home sometime in the night last night (Sunday). There is a child involved, my 13 year old daughter - who now is aware that something is going on.
My question is this...i feel like this is completely messed up, because this guy is the sweetest, most considerate, affectionate, loving man i've ever known. Then every couple of months, he blows up - becomes mean, name calling, leaves and doesn't give me details, inconsiderate and selfish. And then slowly he comes back. Now yes, i know - i've been allowing this. But the last time this happened was right before christmas, and he was so miserable he talked about suicide..so when things started to go back up on his end, i suggested some self-help relationship therapy which he went through.

His mother is bi-polar - does this sound like a guy with a mental instability or does it sound like someone who really wants to get out?

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:21pm
I'm not familiar with bi-polar disease so I don't know if this could be signs of it or not but what I do know is you and your daughter deserve to have someone who will be there for you regardless of what happens.
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