could tell it was coming to an end

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Registered: 02-05-2005
could tell it was coming to an end
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 1:35am

I had been dating this guy for two years but the last few months have been real rough on the relationship. Then all of a sudden two days ago he walks in to our house and told me, out of the blue that he didn't love me anymore and he wanted me out right away! I could tell it wasn't getting any better but I never expected for him to end it like that. I think I expected him to at least try and work our problems out before he up and decided to give me the boot. Well I guess I was wrong in thinking that things would actually go my way for once!

The thing I am having problems with is even though I knew it was just about over I am completely shellshocked and depressed that he would lead me on through valentines day, and then a week later turn around and throw me out like he never cared in the first place!

So I guess my question is why am I so upset? How can I even begin to deal with my emotions and my depression. Afterall I didn't want us to end but I'm devastated at how he handled the breakup, and never once gave me any real reason why he could not try to work things out! Please help me!

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Registered: 11-02-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 2:39am
Guys tend to say things out of the blue even when we didn't do anything wrong, I'll never understand why but they just all of a sudden get a wild hair up their a** and decide hey I don't love her anymore, it's like jeez thanks, I wish you would have told me sooner instead of putting me through all this bullsh*t! Me and my BF also lived together, he moved out a week before we broke up..said he thinks our relationship would me a million times better if we didn't live together..but that obviously didn't happen! But all I can tell you is what everyone has been telling me, because I am FAR from being over him but I do know that being away from him has given me alot of time to think about things, even though it kills me inside to not pick up the phone and just say "I miss you so much" I know that I cant because it will just break my heart all over again. I'm also starting a list of everything I hate about him it is helping a little bit but I am still in agony, only time will tell how things will turn out and I always have hope that tomorrow will be better.
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Registered: 02-24-2005
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:34am
Why do men handle things the way they do? This will bother him. I'm going through a breakup myself and I have no idea where it came from. He needs you,he wants you,can't live without you then WHAM! I'm outta here. No clue,no idea where it came from and it hurts like hell but I've been through alot and am a strong enough gal to know that this is HIS problem not mine. If it's over...why does he keep calling. It's not worth the energy to feed a man's ego. Don't get me wrong....I LOVE men but I will not let them take my self esteem because of their own issues. You will get through this and be a better woman. If he comes back and wants another chance...make him work for it! If things are not working out,going through a mutual breakup is one thing but throwing something at you that you are not expecting is wrong. I'm a firm believer in Karma! What goes around comes around. You get what you give. Go out with your girlfriends and do what you can to get your mind off of this. Eventually,you may find out why this happened and you can start to get some closure.