I can't believe he could do this!
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I can't believe he could do this!
| Thu, 02-24-2005 - 7:13pm |
My boyfriend of 6 years and I broke up a few weeks ago.We broke up for a few reasons, no sex for almost 3 years, no romantic feelings for each other, well atleast not showing our feelings and I had a big issue with the fact that for the 6 years we were together we never went on any kind of weekend away just the 2 of us. That really bothered me, the only vacation we ever went on was to a harley show every year in Reno and we would always stay with about 8 people in the same room. The last 3 years I kept saying I wasn't going until he took me on a vaction just the 2 of us. well I always gave in because it was a fun trip and I didn't want to stay behind. Well we break up 3 weeks ago and we still talk off and on. He tells me this week his friends wanted to go to Vegas for a few days and he was going and I told him that is very nice hope he has a nice vacation since he hasn't been on one in 6 years! Yesterday he calls crying to me saying he doesn't want to go he would rather be going with me but he can't tell them no because then they will never ask them to do anything again. Well last night he left for Vegas with a few of his friends and told me to call him that he would like to hear from me. This is really bothering me and I don't know why. It just really hurts me because for 6 years he would never take me anywhere and as soon as we break up he goes on a trip that we have talked about, he always told me he wanted to go because he has never been but he would never follow through on his plans. I think I just needed to vent! I know this shouldn't bother me, it just hurts!
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| Fri, 02-25-2005 - 11:29am |
What do you mean this shouldn't bother you!? You'd be an emotionless robot for it to NOT bother you. Pretty much a slap in the face isn't it? Of course it bothers you, for the exact reasons you've stated. You gave him 6 years of your life. Six years of effort and emotional investment wasted. He'd never once gone with you on a vacation, and now the moment you're no longer together, he's hopping a plane to Vagas for a vacation! You know why this is bothering you. Because of his inconsiderate selfishness while together. Then he has the nerve to call you up and whine about not wanting to go!? Give me a break! What a cowardly excuse "he can't tell them no because then they will never ask them to do anything again"! Please! First, guys aren't like that. They don't get all pissy and vengeful with hurt feelings. How hard would it be to say "Thanks but not this time, maybe the next time you go." Not hard at all. He wants to go, he just doesn't want you to be mad at him for wanting to go with them when he never wanted to go with you. Of course it bothers you. I'm so sorry you had to learn the hard way just how deep your XBF's cowardly selfishness goes. I hope venting helps you through the healing process so you can move on to the man who truly deserves the great caring woman you are.
