Moving on one breath at a time

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Moving on one breath at a time
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 3:34pm
You know the feeling you get when you meet the someone, the one that makes everything make sense. The one that helps make you stronger than all your fears and disappointments. The one that loves you no matter what. You know the feeling when they tell you after 9 years that they don't know what they want in life anymore and they can't give you what you want, and they are going to date their ex again... this happened to me recently. About 2 months ago. The only man I have ever truely loved and given my all to, told me he just couldn't do it anymore. He couldn't continue lying to himself and to me. So our relationship deceased. But the feelings never did. we have talked about it several times, like last night for example. He called me up and said he wanted to see me and he wanted to talk. So we went to dinner and I listened to him tell me that he is confused and unhappy. I listened to him tell me that he hurts. And then I told him that he could never begin to hurt as bad as I do. I told him I am here for him and I wish I could help him, but it hurts too bad. So we agreed to try the friendship thing, seeing as how he is dating someone and I just started dating again. I think he is scared of loosing me for good. I think he can't be alone, and seeing me happy with someone makes him feel very alone. I am very confused and very lonely myself. But I am trying to move on. Because I know that I will always love him and I will always want to spend the rest of my life with him, but right now he can't make me happy because he is not happy. So I have to move on. And I have to find happiness on my own. Maybe if you have felt this way before, if you have lost your soulmate before, we can console together and you can tell me what it's like on the other side of the pain.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 4:23pm

oh no...i dont even know where to begin...other than DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!

you can never be happy that way. i swear to god.
you will never be able to move on.....

let him know what he lost!!! move on!!! do not contact him.

im sorry thats all i really have to say....... you cant be ONLY FRIENDS with someone who youre in love with. plus if you keep him in your life you will never want to be serious with anyone else cuz you will always have it in your head that he will change his mind. as hard as it is, forget him. he chose someone else...so let him know what he threw away. why are you letting him have his cake and eat it too. he gets you as a friend but gets to date other people right in front of you face???? do not be someones leftovers...you can be someones main course!

best wishes.