Does he still care?

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Does he still care?
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 7:32am

So...my bf and I broke up about two weeks ago. I am still currently living in his house, while everything gets hooked up at my place.

Here is my question...as I cry everyday and try to deal with this break up, he is out with his friends partying it up. Every night he has been to a friend's house, or his friends have stopped over here to drink some beers. And it is not just a beer, it is four, five, sometimes six hours of drinking.

When I got back to his house last night from hanging out with some of my friends, the music was blaring and the house was filled with smoke.(While I was living here, I asked him and his friends not to smoke in the house. They all respected that. Not last night though.) Anyways, when I got home, me ex comes running upstairs from the basement and starts acting as though he would have if we were still together. I asked him to go back down with his friends and to leave me alone. I also asked if this the life I am being traded for? Would he rather drink every night with his friends, than have a relationship? He said it is only normal for guys to go through this cycle. Is it?

Is this his way of dealing with the break up or am I truly being traded for this lifestyle?

I am losing my mind over this.

p.s. Before he went back downstairs he said, "you don't think this(referring to the drinking nightly) will stop when I start dating the next girl?" or something to that effect. I couldn't believe he was talking about dating another girl with me right there. I know he was drunk, very drunk, but still... Why would he say that?

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:07am

my exboyfriend handled it the same way
i was at home for weeks in my room bawling my eyes out and hurting so bad.. and he was out drinking with his friends not having to think about it. so unfair.
i think its just how some guys deal with things..

he probably missed this lifestyle because when you 2 were together he couldnt do it as often...... my ex is doing the exact same thing.

i wuoldnt say hes trading you for it..its just that he doesnt want to be with you anymore, and this is the next best thing i guess...

i dont know why he would have mentioned dating another girl =\ maybe he was just trying to say that drinking is a part of his life and he wont stop for anyone, not even the next girl hes trying to impress.